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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I just had my worst first date ever...and feel good! |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2013, 5:48 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,849
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| Sounds like it wasn't pleasant, but 30 mins in which you find out there's no attraction, and she clearly communicated that to you isn't a total waste. Lucky it wasn't a few hours. Just one to cross off your list, tried, didn't work,... no harm done. The alternative, where she was 'nice' and gave you... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what is the relationship between Schizophrenia and autism |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2013, 5:30 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,093
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| I can relate to what Ojani is saying about seeing the overlap between schizophrenia spectrum and autism spectrum. There was a really interesting article I read earlier this year about the genetic overlap : "Five major mental illnesses — depression, bipolar disorder, ADHD, schizophrenia and autism — ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Migraines |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2013, 11:15 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,778
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| I always thought bright lights triggered my migraines. Then I once tried botox in the forehead. Coincidentally it was summer - the worst time for my migraines. I didn't get any migraines that summer. 3 months after the botox wore off, I started to get migraines again. I figured the botox stopped me ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Systematisation and disorganisation |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2013, 11:01 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,344
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| Interesting question. I can really relate to what you're saying about feeling paralyzed and getting stuck on not being able to categorize something. I wonder if the problem comes from trying to organize or systemize things that have emotional value or consequences. I read something once about how ho... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I don’t love my child and it’s breaking me down. Please help |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2013, 7:12 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 6,717
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| You know, my mother loves me, but I was still raised in a household where I was constantly punished and hit and yelled at. My mother loved me, but she had a hard time understanding how to treat me. Had she not loved me, but treated me well, I would have never known the difference. Ever. :) This is ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I need some help with an issue |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2013, 6:10 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 425
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| I'm not totally sure I follow it all. I hear you are at college, it's your first time away from home/your parents. Your Dad sounds worried, a little over protective and wanting to give you advice and shield you from people taking advantage of you. An admirable goal for a parent, however you're colle... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Still Fighting Depression |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2013, 5:53 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 382
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| Doesn't sound like you're on the verge of damaging your family. Your mom and step father sound like they can do that quite well without any help from you! You know, family doesn't mean you have to take everything they dish out. There is nothing wrong with setting some boundaries. You don't have to s... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Not feeling so good =[ |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2013, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 394
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| You've pinpointed feeling hopeless and identifed several reasons for how you could have gotten to that point. Having that insight puts you a step ahead for starters. Now you've identified the issues, the next step is to find some help. Are you seeing a doctor about the anxiety? First address that is... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Have you ever been judged by your political beliefs? |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2012, 6:26 pm
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Replies: 54
Views: 5,328
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| There is a lot of research relating personality variables to political beliefs. I would never date a conservative ever again... I prefer the openness, flexibililty of thought, compassion and intellectual curiosity that is more evident among liberals. I've found conservatives fearful in general, resi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are you dating an NT? How do you express affection? |
| nomadder |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2012, 11:38 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 3,833
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| [Another idea I have: Our one year anniversary of meeting his coming up. I have mentioned the date to him already. I'm thinking of asking him to plan what we'll do that day. That way, he'll know the expectation is there, but it will give him a chance to show how he feels in a way other than with wo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Maybe someone can give me some advice before tomorrow |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 7:55 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,014
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| Please tell your family and his family and others around you about the death threats and please take them seriously. A restraining order only works if he follows it. There is no joking about threats like that. I think you should contact a domestic violence agency in your area for assistance, at leas... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Getting nowhere on OkCupid...help! |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2012, 9:40 pm
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Replies: 23
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| I like the 3rd photo best, you're not smiling but it looks kinda cool. Re the car paragraph. Condense it more. It's great to be passionate about your job, but sound like you've got some room there for a girl. I'd just like a guy to be more passionate about me than his cars. I'd condense it to "I hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think I dropped the ball... |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2012, 7:19 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,806
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| You have made clear you want a relationship. Maybe she just wanted sex and nothing serious. Maybe that's what she meant by not wanting to 'drag you down something'. You nixed the sex. Maybe neither of you did anything wrong, but you both had different intentions that night about the relationship. I ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to use Assertiveness correctly |
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Posted: 10 May 2012, 2:20 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,715
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| I think that many of us do use passive communication too much since we simply use small talk and use nodding or shaking of the head to say yes/no. Do you think people with ASD also use passive communication because of alexithymia? I was reading that most people with ASD have some degree of alexithy... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Our Idiot Brother |
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Posted: 07 May 2012, 6:40 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,242
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| I saw the movie a while ago. He comes across as socially naive, and that by itself didn't make me think he is AS. There are plenty of socially naive NTs. I don't recall he had any other traits that seemed very ASD to me. I do recall he came across as someone who was naturally adept at emotional reci... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspies are lacking in emotional attachment? A few thoughts. |
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Posted: 05 May 2012, 7:57 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 6,630
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| I have another question about attachment to fictional characters but not real people. Do you think you can get more attached to the fictional character because of the format where you learn about them. A book presents a character in depth, dramatizes traits, etc – you have such a clear picture or fe... |
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