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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My diagnosis |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2013, 8:50 am
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| This is perhaps a bit off-topic in relation to the last few items in this thread, but I just wanted to add a few comments about dealing with/accepting/coming to terms with (or whatever) my diagnosis, as I have experienced it in the month or so since my final appointment at the clinic (it seems a lot... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should I share my Aspergers with my bosses |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2013, 4:39 pm
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| I haven't told anyone at work, even though (or perhaps exactly because) the AS directly affects my work performance in many ways. It is frustrating at times to know (officially) the reason why certain things are difficult and to even sometimes to be able to force accomodations to the way I am and ye... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My diagnosis |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2013, 9:10 am
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| I think they want to restrict diagnoses to people who really can't cope at all and need a diagnosis to get the help they need. I was guessing the same thing -- from your nickname etc I'm guessing we're in roughly the same geographic area, and from what I gather, a diagnosis here would mean a.) a pe... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My diagnosis |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2013, 3:48 am
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| Thanks for your comments. I find them very helpful :) . The situation with the official diagnosis is just the way it is and I have no plans to push for one. I'm not even sure I know whether I really need extra help or not. The strange thing is that I just about manage to survive in society, albeit w... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My diagnosis |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2013, 3:16 pm
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| Hello Wrong Planet users. I haven't posted for over a year on this forum (I switched to an AS forum in my own country) but I have something to share which maybe someone can help me with with a comment or two. The situation is this. I am 59 and became pretty sure about two years ago that I had been s... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Goodbye (provisionally) |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 6:06 am
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| Up until a few months ago I used to post regularly on WP. It was easier for me to write in English because English is my native tongue. However my home is in Germany. In the end I plucked up the courage to write in German on the German forum Aspies.de (under another user name). So now I am there and... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Just Diagnosised |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2012, 5:59 pm
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| I think I've got worse since I was diagnosed. Something inside said "it's ok to be this way because that's how you were born" rather than "strive incredibly hard to hide who you are". As a result I have drifted even further away from normalcy than where I was already. Like you, I read and talked all... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Depressed at still being who I am |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2012, 5:22 pm
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| Today was a bad day. I spent it alone in my apartment engaging in my restricted and repetitive behaviours but was not happy to be doing this. The whole day I was aware that the way I am is not right but that I have been that way my whole life and that I will always be that way. No matter what I do I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What would your ideal life be? |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2012, 11:57 am
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| I would love to go out with a bus-driver who is introverted like me and so won't reject me through influence and obligation from extroverted mates. And I want to live with him in the Isle of Wight, down by the sea in a posh little villa, with no noisy neighbours with loudmouth brats. And I would li... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do your friends dismiss your diagnosis? |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2012, 1:04 pm
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| I only have a partner and no friends at all 8O, but when I told her she said she was absolutely certain I had it. Since getting the diagnosis I have often questioned it but she remains adamant that it fits. On the other hand I don't know how anyone else would react because I haven't told them. I wou... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Truely Alone |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 12:40 pm
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| I do have a (platonic) girlfriend who I see one day a week, so I'm not completely isolated, but apart from that I have no friends at all and no contact with my family of origin because they live far away and we don't have anything in common. But I think that it is mainly my own fault that I am as al... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone here over 40 and single? |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2012, 5:58 pm
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| I imagine there are a lot of people on WP who are over 40 and single. I was single until I was 48. Now I'm 58 and in a rather odd kind of aspie-adjusted long-term relationship with an NT, but before that I was single for decades and decades, which was sad. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How long till you're found different? |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2012, 5:45 pm
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| Your case sounds much the same as mine. Sooner or later people start expecting me to be different to the way I am, usually because I've managed to create the impression at the beginning that I am more like a normal person than I am, and it is impossible to continue like that beyond a certain amount ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Making up for lost childhood years in adulthood |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2012, 5:10 pm
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@Ai Ling
I know exactly what you mean. I spent my twenties trying to catch up on my teens and my thirties trying to catch up on my twenties. Now I'm 58 and still a teenager inside somehow. When I meet people in their twenties they all seem older than me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Going for a third diagnosis |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2012, 2:34 pm
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| Well, at least no-one can accuse me of not being thorough. Last October I received an unofficial ASD diagnosis at the autism centre here. Then I saw my GP to get a referral to a neurologist/psychiatrist who admitted she knew nothing about the subject but sent me to a therapist. The therapist diagnos... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Is behaviour therapy possible for someone like me? |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 4:39 pm
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| If you choose to see a psychologist, you must see one who specializes in AS. If you go to someone who does not specialize in AS, you will find the entire experience immensely uncomfortable and will also make little to no headway because they will not know how to deal with you or how to connect and ... |
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