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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Doubts about Aspie ex-bf |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 09 Oct 2011, 10:15 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 4,215
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| I would like to share with you my situation to know your opinion about it, since I'm NT and my ex is Aspie, so probably you will understand his behaviour better than I do. Well, we were together for almost a year and we were really fine, he was really sweet with me and I was deeply in love with him... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: women like the way I look but not the way I am |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2011, 1:28 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,527
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| I assumed they meant confidence in general. Do you have any confidence in any areas of your life? You must have some in the business arena. Of course, I can stand up in front of a roomful of hedge fund managers and make them take notes as fast as they can write, but put me in front of an attractive... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: women like the way I look but not the way I am |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2011, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,527
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| I assumed they meant confidence in general. Do you have any confidence in any areas of your life? You must have some in the business arena. Of course, I can stand up in front of a roomful of hedge fund managers and make them take notes as fast as they can write, but put me in front of an attractive... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: women like the way I look but not the way I am |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2011, 12:59 pm
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Replies: 48
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| Success in ALL OTHER areas of life. Girls know this. They know that an insecure man is likely to stumble through life with his head down never acheiving his full potential because his anxieties keep him from taking risks. They also know that they will most likely end up having to mother you and nur... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2011, 12:45 am
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| BTW, when I say that I'm ntISH I mean that I have mild Tourettes and insomnia. I'm generally considered "normal" and attractive, although normal doesn't really float my boat, so none of my NT friends understand my "weird" interests. So, just tell him that you taking him to a special restaurant. I c... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: WTF is wrong with me? |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 10:20 pm
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Replies: 127
Views: 10,786
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| Oh, and let's not forget the guy I scared off last week by telling him I had AS. I might as well have "I am damaged" plastered on my forehead. As a guy diagnosed with Aspergers, I have to say that saying that to me would have gotten me MUCH MUCH MORE interested in you, unlike that undoubtedly NT gu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 10:10 pm
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| I knew he was aspie before I knew anything else about him. He sort of closed in on my personal space and starting droning on in a monotone about things I already knew. He did care that I already knew these things. He had a monologue that he was comfortable with, and thus would be impossible to not ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 10:00 pm
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| Wait, what... the BILLING???! I don't even know what this means. I don't want a business associate. I want a friend/ romantic partner who doesn't feel obliged to care fir me simply because I'm female. Plenty of females are perfectly capable of caring for themselves, but still long for love relation... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: WTF is wrong with me? |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:56 pm
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Replies: 127
Views: 10,786
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| But as soon as someone gets to know me a little better, it's over, despite my best efforts. The worst part fof it is that I've done pretty much everything you're "supposed" to do and I still can't inspire anything: nothing, zero. I see guys who are supposedly far less "eligible" than I am actually ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:47 pm
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| Bopkasen, I don't know you so I can't make assumptions about your culture of origin. I am American, and I am not interested in searching for man to care for me in that way. So, you basically want him to be your partner and take care of the billing instead? Oh well, ask him out instead. Again, I am ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:45 pm
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| Ai Ling, I am a herpetologist so we don't just share an interest, we share a passion. I feel like that in and if itself might be disclosing too much. I was intrigued with him before I knew anything about his interests, based on 'chemistry,' which seems to be a dubious idea in the AS world. It's ver... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 76
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| Thank you for your quick response! You mentioned finances twice. I don't know how old you are, but to be clear about myself, I'm in my late twenties and I'm fully capable of supporting myself. I'm not looking for a man to support me I am not accusing you at all but be in my shoes for change and see... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Met a girl at random |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:30 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,540
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| Just called her and she let slip that she has a BF. Do i bother continuing or do i drop it? She either A. not happy with her boyfriend B. Wasn't sure if you were coming on to her and therefore told you something in a nice way. Either way, it is a bad deal and sure wouldn't like convincing her to br... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT-ish woman, totally taken with Aspie guy... |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 9:18 pm
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Replies: 76
Views: 10,258
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| ... and totally lost. Obviously, flirtation is NOT working. I flirt and I flirt and I desperately flirt, and he just keeps coming back with science and biology. If he was an NT guy I'd just assume he was taken or not interested, but in this case ????? I don't know how to gauge his interest, which w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: You've been the death of me... |
| Bopkasen |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2011, 11:35 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 3,123
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| I would be convicted by your generosity. There is no telling how I would feel about this. i am sorry, im afraid i do not quite understand your meaning..? could you state it in a different way possibly? It means that I would feel guilty to not think of a possibility of dating you. If there were no a... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: You're on death row |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 11:38 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 591
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sluice wrote: What is your last meal and your last wish?
lamb kebab with rice, diet coke, greek cooked cheese, candles, Febreeze air freshner, party decoration, scotch tape, and cookie dough ice cream. |
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