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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why Do Some Aspies Struggle With Dating While Others Dont? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2021, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 55
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| Approach humans, women, men, old folks, hot or ugly, as human beings and potential friends. They will appreciate you for it. Attraction may develop over time, or not, but you can remain friends with a person if attraction doesn't develop. Not harm. Just let her down gently... I'm not suggesting &qu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Driving consistently |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2021, 10:48 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,461
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1. Practice consciousness while driving. Drive with radio turned off. Don't let your thoughts wander around while driving - try to concentrate 100% on driving.
2. Practice makes perfect. Two hours / year is too little. Try to drive more often and on regular basis. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2021, 2:42 pm
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Replies: 69
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| The same as athletically based women will be more likely to see competitive chess players as dorks, whereas gamer girls could see them as kinda cool. The fact that I have such a diverse range in hobbies over which to connect has been one of my biggest frustrations when it comes to dating! :P To cit... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2021, 11:58 am
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Replies: 69
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| It seems to me that music might still be a good potential avenue for meeting people ( other than just fellow band members). It's probably not a good career choice, but what are your prospects for obtaining occasional music gigs, either as part of a band or as a solo performer? Women are sometimes a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2021, 8:59 am
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Replies: 69
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| Ah, yes. Eastern Europeans and Russians are way more direct in conversation I've found. There is a definite cultural difference. I do find them easier to talk to in general. I thought I might meet an Eastern European guy once I moved to the city because I have female Polish and Hungarian friends th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2021, 3:23 pm
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Replies: 69
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| Btw, I had a discussion with my wife about the idea of asking out strangers, I'm putting it into spoiler, as it's long: Me : Honey, just a question I'm curious about. How would you feel about the following situation? Imagine you're standing somewhere at a bus station, guy walks up to you, sm... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2021, 1:03 pm
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Replies: 69
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| Trust me: it’s not wise it go up to a stranger and ask her for a date right of the bat. You have to get to know the person a little at first Why not? What's the worst case that could happen? Would she call the cops on me feeling harassed by such a question? I can understand that this approach is go... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2021, 12:02 pm
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Replies: 69
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| Trust me: it’s not wise it go up to a stranger and ask her for a date right of the bat. You have to get to know the person a little at first Why not? What's the worst case that could happen? Would she call the cops on me feeling harassed by such a question? I can understand that this approach is go... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2021, 11:56 am
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Replies: 69
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| It was damn hard for me! Meeting NT girls was easy.....asking them for a date was like public speaking in the nude. Personally, I would have found even asking them for a date easy, but for some reason (maybe advice from friends? :-x ) I was under an impression that asking directly is a bad idea and... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2021, 10:33 am
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Replies: 69
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| It was damn hard for me! Meeting NT girls was easy.....asking them for a date was like public speaking in the nude. Personally, I would have found even asking them for a date easy, but for some reason (maybe advice from friends? :-x ) I was under an impression that asking directly is a bad idea and... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can you tell if someone likes you without asking? (help) |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2021, 5:06 pm
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Replies: 32
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| To be honest I strongly dissent from the majority opinion of people here. I don’t think it remotely likely that she’s using you in any way. Her behavior indicates that she likes you, but friendship and romantic interest are likely reason behind her behavior. I will try to make a point by point analy... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Is a fast metabolism commonplace with aspies? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2021, 3:21 pm
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Replies: 46
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| Hard to say. But my brother, who's diagnosed, is burly and at one point weighed like 330 lbs. or so at 6'5". I used to be sticky, but at the age of 26, managed to hit 219 lbs. at 6'2". Neither cases seem to show particularly fast metabolism. |
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: Any chess players here? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2021, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 15
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pianoplayerjames wrote: Why are we talking about weightlifting in a thread about chess? 
Yeah, sorry about that pianoplayerjames. I compared the methods and effects of chess training to weightlifting training and it sort of went off-topic after that.
Thanks magz for splitting up the thread. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Advice on having better social skills… |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2021, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Effective social change advocacy requires social skills too, and so does building groups of fellow oddballs -- although these require a somewhat different (and in my opinion far less arduous to learn) set of social skills than being accepted as "normal." Yeah, but here we differ in that I... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Advice on having better social skills… |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2021, 2:10 pm
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Replies: 14
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| OK, first I apologize for assuming OP's gender. For whatever reason I thought they're male. Perhaps due to the fact that English is my second language and in my native tongue the grammar is gender specific (verb and adjective suffixes are different for each gender) and we use male form by default; b... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Weight Lifting |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2021, 11:50 am
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Replies: 8
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| No, damn it, you are right, you should continue using Metric. It is high time the U.S. abandoned our obsolete measurement system and embraced Metric, just as Jimmy Carter suggested back in 1979. His plans for a Metric United States were derailed by that male bimbo that came after. I will look up on... |
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