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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to end a conversation. |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2013, 12:29 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,279
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| This happens to me a lot... Sometimes I just have to apologize for being busy and just walk away... A friend and I (we are both NT) were having a conversation about a chap that doesn't shut up. I asked my friend how he got away from the over talker after they saw each other at the shops and he said... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: realizing your different |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2013, 7:30 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 2,605
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| i also don't find it fair how NTs get to feel safe and comfortable but I'm stuck desiring something as little as small talk (which i cant do) anyone else? Not all NTs feel safe and comfortable. Lots of people have their own mind maladies that you can't see and won't know about unless you are told. ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: No social circle, how do I get one?!? |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 3:08 am
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Replies: 3
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| Is this typical of aspies? No social circle and a Severe lack of social drive? I haven't "made a new friend" since before I was a teenager, and my ONE good friend and I have drifted totally apart. It's typical of people in general, with or without AS. To create a social circle you need to meet new ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: men with female friends are gay |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 8:18 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 5,189
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| I wasn't aware it was considered a stereotype. In my opinion, if a male doesn't have any female friends by choice, then he lives a very narrow-minded and isolated lifestyle. I'm straight and have more female friends than male. I'm not attracted to them sexually or secretly yearning for a relationshi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friends and acquaintances |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2013, 5:57 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,388
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| Also, do you think of your doctor as a friend? Or therapist or what have you? I know it is not a "go for coffee" type friendship, but I do feel like my doctor is a friend - a very good person. I know my doctor is very concerned for my welfare and I think that is something that a friend does. It's g... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: An ironic thing.... |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2012, 11:28 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 980
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| I am only generalizing here.... An NT can block out the crowds of people in busy public places, but at the same time can still spot people they know. An Autistic is sometimes known to be ''in a world of their own'' but still gets overanxious in crowded places full of people, and fails to block out ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Constantly angry over grammatical errors by others |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2012, 6:51 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 10,719
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| People always feel intimidated because I point out their grammatical mistakes. I doubt anyone is intimidated when you point out their grammatical errors. I'd suggest they'd be annoyed if you kept pointing out their errors and your observations were unwelcome. I find I cannot even respect them any l... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: One sided conversations |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2012, 5:02 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,230
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KevinLA wrote: However, they never ask anything about me?
Are they just not interested? I can be told the truth. I just want to know why. The people seem to like me.
It could be that they are shy and/or a bit introverted.  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: WTF! does my coming off as intelligent scare people? |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2012, 6:26 am
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Replies: 27
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| So even at the last appointment I went to when I talked to the psychologist, she commented that I did seem very intelligent but seemed rather uncomfortable about it...and its not the first time I've had people make that comment while seeming a bit intimidated it seems. Are you saying that she thoug... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Need help saving a friendship |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2012, 2:12 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,109
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| I got jealous over another guy, and I apologized and told her that I would change or do anything and it's not working. I wrote her a 5 page letter, and she said her feelings are still the same. I'm not sure what to do.. we've been friends for a year. I've never once cussed at her, or acted mean bes... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "You dare?!" |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2012, 1:56 am
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Replies: 1
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| So... Any idea what the NT was thinking when she shouted "You dare?"? How did she expect the Aspie to react upon hearing "You dare?"? I think she didn't take the threat of violence literally. and was shocked and didn't understand why she was slapped. Let me see if I can make sense of this: Aspie: S... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Platonic Female Friend |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2012, 4:01 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,835
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lostintime wrote: If I ask her to go to the movies or mall with me maybe she'll think it's a date. Anyonje have any ideas?
Going to see a movie is cool. Friends do that all the time. You could be casual about it and just say "I'm going to see (insert film here), do you want to come see it?"  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do NT-s have sharper sense of hygine |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2012, 3:53 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,313
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| People (which include NT and Autistic) have different hygiene habits. Some people shower and brush their teeth often, some don't and all for a variety of reasons. It's far too general to try and draw conclusion on what motivates (or doesn't) people to or not to keep clean and brush their teeth. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Platonic Female Friend |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2012, 4:31 am
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Replies: 12
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| 1) So I thought maybe there would be a way to just keep it platonic. Is this possible? 2) As of next month she and I won't be working at the same place any more so if feel as if I don't ask her to hang out now I'll lose what could turn into a friendship since I won't see her anymore. I'm really try... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I be offended? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2012, 8:56 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,068
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| The person that organised the event was a former classmate too, I admit we weren’t very close but still, I kept wondering why I wasn’t invited. What should I do about it? Should I be offended? Is the person who created the event on Facebook in your friends list? If they are not, then they would not... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A-hole complex and autism |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2012, 3:10 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,798
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| Those aren't actual Tumblr rules though? Just social conventions. I know. But it's as people make them out to be social norms. But back to my point: do use auties/Aspies get a bad rap? Blimey. I didn't know those "rules" about Tumblr. I have a Tumblr buddy at work and we often have a chinwag about ... |
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