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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: sometimes i feel jealous/ left out in the aspergers category |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 4:33 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 3,309
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| I certainly feel jealous / left out in the Aspergers category, because I don't have any real talents or passions. I failed in jobs. I do not have a significant other. I am not peacefully "alone". I need human contact, but my efforts are frustrated by the multiple rejections I receive. I get SEVERE d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: For those of you who are happy being completely alone.... |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,991
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| I have a few questions for those of you who are completely alone (no friends, family or significant other nearby).... 1). If you are able to tolerate being totally alone in the world, how do you cope with adversity? (I've always felt that this would be the single biggest challenge to face if I end u... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Prisoner of your own mind? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,790
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| How many out there feel like you are prisoner in your own mind. Do you ever find yourself longing to be able to emotionally connect with another person but just can't no matter what you do. If you where ever granted one wish. Would you find that that is what you would wish for more then anything el... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 4:19 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,813
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| I feel that my negativity and attention to detail often scares others. I say it as I see it. I don't put a sugarcoat on things. The attention to detail further scares others because it makes me seem obsessive (guess). |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social interaction exhausting?? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 4:16 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,689
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| I find social interaction exhausting, particularly 1 on 1. The reason it is so tiring is because I have to make a lot of effort to think of appropriate things to say. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What causes your misery, that you've been unable to share? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2014, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 818
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| Can you list things that make you deeply unhappy, that you feel is the source of your misery (if you are indeed miserable), that you've been unable to share w/ others due to a possible verbal backlash or stigma? Are there things that make you unhappy about this world, that you are ashamed to tell ot... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is social interaction actually bad for most of us? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2013, 10:23 pm
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Replies: 30
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| But isn't a main draw of Wrong Planet to provide social connectedness and understanding that isn't otherwise easily found? Because with the right people, connecting is possible, and it feels very good. But granted, this can be very hard to find, let alone hold onto for any length of time. Very hard... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: In order to live on your own.. |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2013, 6:12 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,287
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| Living on your own with no contacts is hard but not impossible; many people do it when they move to a new city/state/country where none of their family lives close-by and they don't know anyone. I would agree with this to a point. The difference is that with Aspergers, you end up being perpetually ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is social interaction actually bad for most of us? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2013, 6:06 pm
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Replies: 30
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| There is a lot of hype out there about how close social relationships are correlated with happiness. People who have more friends / close connections are happier. Thus, even those of us on the spectrum are encouraged to try interacting with people, in the hopes that we will gain social skills and me... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What weird things gross you out? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 3,510
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| Are you grossed out by things other people wouldn't be grossed out by - or do certain things give you a sense of disgust or revulsion? I have a list of things that are unusual, that give me the creepy-crawlies/disgust/aversion: 1). Being on a cellphone in a public stall, when someone else is also us... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does it help to be told you can make friends? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 6:15 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I have Asperger Syndrome and have had numerous people, both in the professional realm and outside, tell me that I should not give up trying to make social connections. Ok, I've lived long enough to know that when I try, I succeed temporarily and then ultimately fail. Then when tough times come, I ge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did you ever google your old classmates? |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2013, 12:47 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,026
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| I did, and found, even the ones who equalled me academically (I'm only average) OUTDID me in all aspects of life. For example, I googled one classmate that was very unpopular in elementary school and only "average" academically - he's a well-known attorney! Another classmate was quite homely looking... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People rejecting you....In your head...or not? |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2013, 12:35 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,272
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| I've had numerous situations in which I could swear I was being rejected by someone, only to inquire and to get reassurance that the person wasn't rejecting me at all. For example: they didn't email back. Found out they were in the hospital. However, there was no way to verify that because it was an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has lowering your standards ever worked? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2013, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,139
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| I am literally incompatible with everyone else (even though, theoretically there may be someone in the universe that I'll never meet). I've tried dating people no one would ever date. Usually, this meant that the person approached me first (smelly, missing teeth, etc), but eventually they didn't for... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has lowering your standards ever worked? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2013, 12:11 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,139
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| Actually I've found the opposite to be true...that raising my standards has yielded better success. Lowering standards does help to get dates, sure...but they are dates with people that you aren't really attracted to or interested in. So in the end, other than the little amount of experience gained... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has lowering your standards ever worked? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2013, 12:11 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,139
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