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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Modern Love, Aspergers + Marriage by David Finch |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 9:19 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 6,170
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| It's really great to see that his wife is so dedicated to understanding him. There are certainly a lot of people who are capable of understanding Asperger's. From my own experience, it takes dedication, a lot of patience and understanding to be able to make things work. Once the understanding is the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Boyfriend with asperger, difficult.. |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2013, 5:32 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,549
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| If you're really serious and care about him a lot, then you should do all the reading you can about Asperger's so you can understand him better. It will take a lot of reading and experimenting with different strategies to see what works with him, but it'll be worth it in the end. The understanding w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie BF melts down due to diagnosis. |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 8:37 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,484
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| I agree with mikibacsi1124. I think it's a mixture between the stuff regarding his daughter and because you told him that he has Asperger's. It must have hurt his feelings and he took offence because he most likely has a misconception that being an Aspie is a bad thing. You should try to leave some ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie BF melts down due to diagnosis. |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 6:43 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,484
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| I think it's important you communicate with him to find out the root cause of his meltdowns. It could be due to him being in denial. Another factor could be the way you react to his meltdowns. Do you use any particular strategies or techniques when dealing with his meltdowns? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How does NT protect themselves from AS meltdown? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 4:18 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,557
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| I am NT, but I am speaking from my own perspective based on what I have learned from being with my Aspie for 5 years. Here are my tips that I have learned from experience and reading books. The main cause of meltdowns can be due to multiple stressors occuring at once. For example; change, stress at ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Were you ever in a long-distance relationship that worked? |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2013, 9:29 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 3,379
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| I have been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years now. He lives 2 hours away from me and we see eachother on quite a regular basis, that being every month for either a weekend, a week or two weeks depending on our schedules with college and university. It's true long-distance... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Raising Martians - From Crash Landing to Leaving Home |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2013, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 540
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This is a newly published book written by Joshua Muggleton. I was wondering if anyone has given this book a read yet? I haven't read it yet, just wanted to know what reader's thoughts are on it and if it's worth purchasing?  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT/AS relationships? Help!! !! |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2013, 1:16 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 983
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| First of all, are you sure this guy is an Aspie? Mainly because the behaviours don't seem very Aspie-like, but then again each person with Asperger's is completely different. Have you ever tried confronting him about this situation and talked to him about this girl he keeps talking dirty with behind... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Improving an Asp/NT relationship! |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2013, 6:40 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 3,668
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| Well, based on my own relationship with my boyfriend who has Asperger's, I'd say his shutdowns are what make it harder for us to communicate especially when he has no routine, for example; when he's off college for the holidays I don't hear from him as much as I do when he's at college, which someti... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and an interest in psychology? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2013, 3:37 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 10,373
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| Although I'm NT, I also have a big interest in Psychology and I am studying it in University at the moment. It's really fascinating and I am enjoying learning about all the different theories. I guess it depends on how you look at it and what area you want to go into, whether it's the more scientifi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: personality disorder test |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 11:04 am
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Replies: 135
Views: 19,341
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| Paranoid || 10% 50% Schizoid || 10% 40% Schizotypal |||||| 26% 56% Antisocial || 10% 46% Borderline || 10% 45% Histrionic || 10% 35% Narcissistic || 10% 40% Avoidant |||||| 22% 48% Dependent |||| 18% 44% Obsessive-Compulsive |||||||||| 34% 45% Well, these are my results. I haven't been diagnosed wit... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotions |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2013, 7:25 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,804
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| Assuming you're not a troll, and just know nothing about ASD - I think you've confused the terms "Aspie" with "NT". Aspies feel everything very intensely and deeply. NTs are almost always incapable of understanding what it's like not to be so empty and numb. Attempting to explain what feelings are ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotions |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2013, 6:14 pm
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Replies: 17
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| Hey everyone, Do some aspies have trouble understanding the concept of certain emotions such as; embarrassment, stress or anxiety or do they just simply not know what it feels like? Also, is there a way to explain what it is so they are able to understand it? I would really appreciate if I could gai... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So confused... |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2012, 2:20 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,079
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| From my experience, even something highly anticipated and amazingly positive can still overwhelm my system and bring on shutdown. In my case, I'd love to spend every waking moment with my estranged young children but when I DO get to spend time with them it's so awesome I end up shutting down after... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So confused... |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2012, 12:01 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,079
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| Is it possible that he's stressed out about the idea of coming to visit you? I think if there's something about it that he's really stressed about, perhaps he's putting it off so he doesn't have to deal with it. Perhaps step back for a few days and then bring it up to him again in like a week or so... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So confused... |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2012, 12:00 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,079
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| Is it possible that he's stressed out about the idea of coming to visit you? I think if there's something about it that he's really stressed about, perhaps he's putting it off so he doesn't have to deal with it. Perhaps step back for a few days and then bring it up to him again in like a week or so... |
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