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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can I convince my ex-husband to get diagnosed? |
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Posted: 20 May 2015, 7:41 am
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| Thanks for your replies.. If things are the way you say, than for your son's sake and yours, go back to court if you can and try to get full custody with no visitation. Kids are better off with one good parent that they can rely on than one good parent and one bad parent. Child support (which it sou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can I convince my ex-husband to get diagnosed? |
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Posted: 20 May 2015, 3:46 am
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| Hello. I've been following a similar thread here, but since my situation is different, so I'm starting a new one. I have been divorced for almost 6 years. We have an 8 year old gifted Aspergian and we co-parent. There are many issues there, as my ex doesn't respect the agreements we made. It took me... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Defience |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2015, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Wow, there's some great advice and explanations here. Not a real solution perhaps, but there are watches that you can set to send reminders. Looks helpful if you're tired of being the prompter; and I think it might make older kids feel less helpless. I haven't tried them, though. http://watchminder.... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Balancing home life with work, with special needs kids |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2015, 2:32 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Excellent topic. 'Try to find the right balance' for me personally, is about as vague as 'add a dash of salt'. Finding balance seems to be the key to a happy life: balance between work and life, balance between intervening/steering vs backing off, balancing between friendly and advocative, ... On th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How important are NT friends? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2015, 2:10 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,412
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| I think it's very important to have disabled friends (ASD or not doesn't matter) because if you only hang out with nondisabled NTs, you will always be the outsider. I think every child needs to have some social contacts where he/she does not stand out from everyone else. Second that. If I could cho... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "My Daughter Is a Gift, But Her Autism Is Not" |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2015, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 2,795
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| I have not seen any neurodiversity activists who are against all efforts to help an autistic kid function better. That seems to be just a strawman/misinterpretation thrown out by people who think any attempt to teach a developmentally disabled child a useful skill automatically counts as 'therapy'.... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Single Parent |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2015, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 12
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| F10ona1 wrote: I read a couple of blogs recently that said basically single parents of autistic kids have to pretty much say goodbye to a love life. Because when their date hears they have a child with autism they almost always don't hear from them again! On the good side, it's a way to weed out th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "My Daughter Is a Gift, But Her Autism Is Not" |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2015, 2:51 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 2,795
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| I've read that Microsoft even puts a 'quality' label on their software saying it 'has been tested buy people on the autistic spectrum'. No elaboration necessary There's some elaboration necessary for me. I don't get what that label is supposed to mean. Sorry. Microsoft is one of the companies that ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "My Daughter Is a Gift, But Her Autism Is Not" |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2015, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 47
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| I wish I could recommend the book 'The Power of Neurodiversity' by Thomas Armstrong, phd, to the writer of the article. There are many segments in the book in which he explains that neurodiversity 'is not a Polyanna philosophy'. E.g., Armstrong writes, 'I am not attempting to sidestep the damage tha... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: A friendly definition of autism? |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2015, 6:27 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,910
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| I lost track of this thread, sorry about that. I like to separate the autism from the disabilities. I'm not going into great detail now, but I consider autism a word we chose to describe a very heterogenous group of people with overlapping qualities, behaviour and communication. Some of them have di... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting dragged in by classmates |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2015, 7:05 am
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Replies: 23
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| It may be different for me, I understand, because my daughter is mild in her presentation at this point and usually only looks "quirky" to others (unless, like at the party, she completely loses her ability to compensate). But I have decided people will either need to accept her as quirky... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting dragged in by classmates |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2015, 7:38 am
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Replies: 23
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| The reason I'm mentioning this is that sometimes I think special needs parents feel like they have to do everything perfectly...but it turns out that despite his challenges, my son is in some ways more resilient than an NT kid. We recovered and moved on - we've found as parents that what it takes i... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Single Parent |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2015, 5:02 am
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Replies: 12
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| Hi F10ona1, Single mom here. DS sees his dad about 2 days a week, so I do get a break. Are you going to do the coparenting-thing? My 1st advice: get everything in writing, make a waterproof contract between the two of you, include clauses that state he needs to be present on IEP meetings, counseling... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting dragged in by classmates |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2015, 4:26 am
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Replies: 23
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Quote: It's a balance between holding him accountable and letting him know that if anything feels "off" you won't hold it against him if he asks you about it.
Yes, this is what I'm going for! Thanks so much everyone. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting dragged in by classmates |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 11:52 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,380
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| Is it possible they learned these words from South Park or shows like that? Not my kid :). He doesn't like tv. He only plays games that I pre-approve. There is some mild language in some of his comics, but nothing like this. Ironically, teachers told me a couple of months ago that 'Casper and Hobbe... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting dragged in by classmates |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2015, 9:21 am
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Replies: 23
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| Can I ask why you feel the need to control your son's exposure even when he isn't with you? Would it not be better to establish an honest dialogue where you are his helper rather than his controller? Sure, I understand. But then there's this: I believe that typical kids with a tendency to bully or ... |
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