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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I need a job to get insurance to get better to get a job |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2012, 2:47 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I don't mean this negatively, who told you / how do you know you aren't eligible for Medicaid? If it's because you've done the research yourself and realize your primary condition isn't covered, you might be surprised at how having coexisting conditions changes things. Spectrum related disorders in ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: what are your strengths / what kind of work would be ideal? |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2012, 2:36 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I'm good at jobs that require a high degree of focus and planning. I write well. I'm not terrible at interviewing people if I need to. My weakness is that I give off weird vibes, I am very honest, and I am generally quiet in social situations unless I have a clear purpose for that communication and... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: what are your strengths / what kind of work would be ideal? |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2012, 2:03 pm
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| So, my best coping mechanism when things are hard is to pick a project and throw myself into it. Things are definitely hard right now. I have some ideas floating in my head, though, and I thought I'd try to put some of them to paper - it seems to help somehow. The one I'm concentrating on involves b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: aspie women and boyfriends |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2012, 6:45 pm
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Replies: 102
Views: 8,769
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| If alot of nt women struggle in relationship and nt women have better social skills I would just assume that asperger women should have a more harder time in relationship. If you ladies have hard time making friends. Shouldn't you ladies also have a hard time getting a boyfriend or be able stay in ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: aspie women and boyfriends |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2012, 1:00 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 8,769
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| I keep trying to reply but it keeps coming out sounding mean (less to you, now, and more to NT women in general, which is even less fair) even now that I'm trying to respond civilly. I give =/ I did want to say that your recent posts in this thread felt quite a lot more thought provoking to me than ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: aspie women and boyfriends |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2012, 12:25 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 8,769
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| Somehow I feel like you're bound and determined to prove that Aspie women do better with men because we tend to not be as shallow as you seem to be. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: aspie women and boyfriends |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2012, 11:51 pm
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Replies: 102
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| I don't know that it's fair to say we missed your point - I think you changed the goalposts halfway through the thread. But in response to your 'woe is me, why can't a pretty, social, successful NT gIrl get her mrs degree nailed down when all you ugly, masculine, loser aspie women can get dates' poi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: aspie women and boyfriends |
| spaghedeity |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2012, 10:55 pm
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Replies: 102
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| I don't rightly know how to respond to this, but I'll try. Firstly, the people who are so antisocial that they've never made s single friend have probably never been in a relationship either - and I doubt you'll find many posts on here that profess otherwise. Secondly, not everyone who is on the spe... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What is the crudest thing someone has said to you? |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2012, 8:54 pm
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Replies: 50
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| My boyfriend used to drunkenly sing 'tear you apart' by 'she wants revenge' - probably as crude as it gets |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Words after sex |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2012, 8:49 pm
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Replies: 75
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| Hahaha, I also say 'thank you' - and I learned it from the same place arielhawksquill did =p |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Being angry with a friend |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2012, 7:41 pm
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Replies: 6
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| this is, essentially, what happens to nearly every friendship I've ever had. I assume I must do something to initiate the withdrawal, but I've never been able to figure it out. I can pick out any number of bits of my personality that I know must be irritating or abrasive, but they're nothing new - I... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Aspie husband had crush on 11 yr old girl |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 22
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| I agree with BlueMax completely! Your putting sweet in quotation marks worries me, because I find that lots of times that means the two people in question have VERY different meanings intended. Iwhen I was young, I had what I would consider to be real friends who were adults - in retrospect, I assum... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: politely refusing offers |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 2:12 pm
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Replies: 32
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| It's my biggest problem with AS. With time and as we gather more experience in these things, they turn to repeat themselves and we already know. The principles are few. I feel that's why I've gotten along as well as I have in my life, with the exception of truly bad episodes with comorbid issues. I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: lack of empathy a prerequisite for Aspergers? |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I struggled with this one too, once I started doing a lot of research about ASD. I have exceptional empathy or sympathy - still not sure which - and I don't really know if it's innate or something I learned to help me deal with a lack of normal-people empathy. It's definitely common here on WP, thou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: politely refusing offers |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 9:57 am
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Replies: 32
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| Oy, I have real trouble with this! I freely offer just about anything I have to others, even people who don't matter much to me. I don't know if I do this because I've learned that being nice ends up resulting in me getting hurt less, or because I undervalue my own needs, or what - it's just what I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How often do your special interests change? |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 9:33 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 5,594
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| I love to learn - that has never and likely (hopefully?) will never change. I like taking apart or breaking down complex systems into simpler components, and fitting them together more efficiently. The system I'm interested in at any given moment changes fairly often, though - aside from computers, ... |
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