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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: In a relationship that does not deserve its name |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2017, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 3
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Raleigh wrote: Is she on the spectrum? I don't know, but it's possible. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: In a relationship that does not deserve its name |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2017, 6:19 pm
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Replies: 3
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| As I recently told in another thread, I am now in a relationship. Great, huh? No, it's not. I saw her profile online and decided to contact her. Unlike many others, she gave a positive response and we went on a date. I still thought it would end the usual way with me getting stuck in the friendzone,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspie girl with a lot of friends? |
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Posted: 09 Oct 2017, 11:06 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 620
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| I would see a possible explanation: the people fascinate her and are her special interest. Yes, but she also needs to get people to like her, which requires social skills. I know that female Aspies are often much better at that than male Aspies are, but I still haven't heard about anyone that outgo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspie girl with a lot of friends? |
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Posted: 09 Oct 2017, 10:46 am
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Replies: 5
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| I haven't been on for a while, but there are some happy news: I am now officially in a relationship. Unfortunately, things are not that easy. My girlfriend and I have a lot of things in common, and, well, I have noticed some things on her that make me wonder whether she might have Asperger's, too: 1... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2017, 9:37 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,352
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| I showed the second comic to my therapist, and she said: “Oh, but most couples I know actually met in public transportation...” You should probably know what you are doing, though, so maybe it's not the best choice for romantically inexperienced Aspies. Most people exaggerate, don't believe everyth... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2017, 8:39 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,352
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| Yeah, in reality approaching women in public transit is bad idea; even if those comics are suggesting otherwise. I showed the second comic to my therapist, and she said: “Oh, but most couples I know actually met in public transportation...” You should probably know what you are doing, though, so ma... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2017, 7:07 am
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Replies: 18
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| @The_Face_of_Boo: Yeah, exactly those. Except that I don't even consider approaching people in public, but it's mostly about women whom I know already. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 7:03 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Haha, I'm probably very good at making people uncomfortable by keeping a 1.5m (5ft) distance from them. :lol: I'm not sure if this a social anxiety or an Aspie thing... Better than being a "close talker." Lol Well, I met a few women who also have social anxiety, and for my liking, they ca... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 18
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| There's just no right way to do it if I am somehow convinced that showing interest was inherently wrong. Listen to your instinct. If you feel uncomfortable about it, guaranteed she will. Haha, I'm probably very good at making people uncomfortable by keeping a 1.5m (5ft) distance from them. :lol: I'... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 6:39 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Try making it casual, like if you have an interest in common suggest an outing that incorporates this interest. I always used to get frustrated because once you ask someone out, regardless of their answer it brings the friendship to an end. But don't make it like all or nothing, if she says no mayb... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 6:21 pm
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| Walking up to a stranger and starting a conversation is awkward enough without asking someone out. If there is someone you like talk to them to find out about them. When the time comes to ask her to go somewhere, it should happen naturally. When I feel like asking someone out, I have usually known ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Irrational fears approaching women |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 6:00 pm
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Replies: 18
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| While my normal everyday interaction with other people usually works without any major problems these days, I still haven't made any progress when it comes to dating. Whenever there is a woman around, I feel like I must be extra careful and keep a “safe distance” from her. Like, when a woman sits ne... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Emotionally drained after a date? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2015, 4:04 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,367
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| I think being nervous can be from the pressure that you associate with a date. You should stop worrying so much. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Anyone ever turn down free sex? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 5:42 pm
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Replies: 143
Views: 6,110
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| I've never had the chance to turn down such an offer, but I'd suggest that we have a date and get to know each other first. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: This girl at work... |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 5:34 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 664
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I think she is interested. People who just want friendship don't act like this – unless she is the queen of the friendzone (happened to me  ). |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do you get along with people who care about personality? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 5:20 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 545
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| If you are worrying about it, then your personality is probably not so bad. Those with bad personality are often those who don't realize it. |
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