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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Reasons why I never will have a boyfriend.What do you think? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2013, 10:21 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 5,982
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| I don't agree that you will never, ever have a boyfriend. You deserve to experience romance just like anyone else. It may take time and building up self-esteem, but you can have a relationship if you want it and if it's the right time. I thought just the same at your age. I had brief flings througho... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help! Meltdowns ruining my relationship |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2013, 10:13 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,397
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| I agree, in some ways that's a given, but how can we salvage the good in the relationship, and stay together? I have also recently started a new medication and feel like isolating myself completely. I don't feel rational. I'm trying so hard to be selfless here. To be there for him. But I'm on the br... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help! Meltdowns ruining my relationship |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2013, 9:50 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,397
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| I recently, in the last three months, began what is the most serious relationship in my life so far. It has been really good for me. I'll keep this brief, but basically problems are springing up on both sides and I'm scared we won't make it, and that I'll lose this truly wonderful person, someone wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with body confidence |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2013, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 10,975
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| oops I didn't realize you were talking about body hair. The only advice I can give is. Move to Slovakia. Dudes in Slovakia dig chicks with a ton of body hair. I am not overweight, I wasn't talking about weight. I am self-conscious about stretch marks, but that's different. No, mostly it's the hair.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with body confidence |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2013, 5:00 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 10,975
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| If the intimacy of the sex is fun, engaging and mutually satisfying, no one is paying attention to details like that. Try to relax, quit worrying and enjoy yourself - if you're having fun, he'll have fun. If you're uptight and preoccupied, it'll be a downer for both of you. The best sex in the worl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help with body confidence |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2013, 3:59 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 10,975
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| I kind of have a boyfriend now. Well, we'll see how it goes. I never like to get too hopeful about anything good. I've written on here before about lack of experience. Well, I'm not a virgin any more, I got that one out of the way. I slept with the guy I've been seeing for the first time last night,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to develop a thick skin? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 2:00 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 2,629
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| I can relate to everything you said. I am even slow too. People have complained about that with me and I have even been fired from a job because of it. Could that be an Aspie thing? Yes, autistics have large motor co-ordination problems, and bilateral co-ordination problems. Yes I too have been bul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to develop a thick skin? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 12:56 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 2,629
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| I can relate to everything you said. I am even slow too. People have complained about that with me and I have even been fired from a job because of it. Could that be an Aspie thing? Yes, autistics have large motor co-ordination problems, and bilateral co-ordination problems. Yes I too have been bul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to develop a thick skin? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 2,629
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| Impossible as it may seem, if you give yourself time it is possible to improve on this. For me being exposed to constant bullying and abuse from others eventually tipped me to the point of having to stand up for myself; well, it was that and being lucky enough to have allies and people who liked me ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I attractive? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 03 May 2013, 10:07 pm
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Replies: 175
Views: 15,417
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| Okay, I did a more refined search and I found you. I have decided that since you put yourself out there, and since you asked, I have the right to be as honest as I want to be; At first when I looked, I thought; just fine, normal, average. Then when I looked closer and spent some more time, I though... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How severe is your AS form? |
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Posted: 02 May 2013, 10:17 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,227
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| Hi was diagnosed as high functioning autistic, i don't remember exactly what the papers said but in all total criteria the doctors considered me about 75% autistic while my parents considered me about 85%. Sometime I often question it. Sometimes I feel like I'm more sever then typical highfuctionin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How severe is your AS form? |
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Posted: 02 May 2013, 10:06 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,227
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| I'm told I'm "mild" because I can live independently and my social skills are pretty good (after years of hard work). On the other hand, my sensory issues are really quite severe and I have terrible head-banging-against-wall meltdowns at least once a week, more often if work is stressful. I assume ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I attractive? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 02 May 2013, 9:27 pm
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Replies: 175
Views: 15,417
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| Okay, I did a more refined search and I found you. I have decided that since you put yourself out there, and since you asked, I have the right to be as honest as I want to be; At first when I looked, I thought; just fine, normal, average. Then when I looked closer and spent some more time, I thought... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I attractive? |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 02 May 2013, 9:19 pm
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Replies: 175
Views: 15,417
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| I can't find you. But please be assured that thinking no one will want you is a self-fulfilling prophecy. For any of us. So long as you learn to believe in yourself you will find a partner, if that's what you want. Give yourself time. You are very, very young. I'm sure you look fine. Like I said, I ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it possible........ |
| Cuckooflower |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2013, 11:19 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 3,489
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| And I agree with the Intense World Theory idea by the way. It fits perfectly with my direct experience. All of my autistic behaviours are designed to moderate the painfully intense intrusion of the outside world. Well, not all as such, but many of the more obvious ones. Do you think this is true of... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it possible........ |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 3,489
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| And I agree with the Intense World Theory idea by the way. It fits perfectly with my direct experience. All of my autistic behaviours are designed to moderate the painfully intense intrusion of the outside world. Well, not all as such, but many of the more obvious ones. Do you think this is true of ... |
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