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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Afraid of losing a good friend. |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2012, 5:02 am
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Replies: 5
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| Thanks for all your replies! I do not mind making an effort to maintain friendships. But my problem is I do not know to strike a balance.Either I talk too much to them and they end up getting scared and move away..else I dont talk at all and then it is too late to talk without awkwardness because we... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: any people of asian descent on this forum? |
| lazamb_girl |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2012, 4:56 am
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Replies: 39
Views: 9,172
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| Good. Not only Im happy to be hear that Im not the only asian on this forum, but also that our cultural group is being honest about the problems we face. As redrobin said earlier, a problem our older generation is their not honest and straightfoward about problems Without criticising or discriminat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is trauma the main 'cause' of autism? |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2012, 11:18 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,457
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| I am not sure I understand your question. Are you saying that trauma can amplify autistic traits? Or is it like this : If there had not been so much childhood trauma, then maybe coping with Autism could have been better, since energy can be directed towards developing skills to cope under normal sit... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trouble keeping friends? |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2012, 9:20 am
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Replies: 38
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| Is it though? I have heard people with AS just develop more slowly, so our learning age might be younger than our actual age. Not sure if this works socially or learning ability. Could it? Social abilities can be learned. Behavioral Therapy is supposed to help. I am going through one right now. I a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Afraid of losing a good friend. |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2012, 9:11 am
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Replies: 5
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| Sometimes I look back on some nice interesting people I have met. I feel bad that I fell apart from one or two people.These were actually not really close friends or anything.But I like to occasionally hold conversations with them and I go over these conversations in my head and feel good about it. ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Something good |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2012, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 1
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| Ok I do not know if it fits here. Mods feel free to move it if it doesnt. Well my psychiatrist (who is not an AS expert, but agreed to look into all my standard test results) agreed that I may have some traits of AS but not all. So I am happy to get some form of validation and a relief that I have n... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How Can I Get People to Listen to What I Say? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2012, 2:12 am
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Replies: 1
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| This is actually a horrible advice..but this is how I do it.. I go over and over in my head as to what exactly I would say.. Then think of various ways to interpret what I am saying and finally come up with a relatively safe version. Well I stay out of trouble with others with this strategy. But my ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is worried obsessiveness an ASD trait? |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2012, 4:22 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,470
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| I have intrusive thoughts and go over and over in my head about the various possibilities and "what-ifs". I bite my nails when I do this. Observing me you would probably think that I am a huge mess. Right now, my obsessive thought process is whether I have AS, would I get diagnosed or will the docto... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can someone like change? |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2012, 4:15 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I am not totally closed to change. I can take changes to my schedule or routine if it is with prior notice of a week (which would be comfortable since I have a the weekend as a buffer) I make travel plans and go to see new places but I always take along someone I am comfortable with. Also bigger the... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate crying in public |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2012, 5:05 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,124
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| I hate crying in public because I hate looking weak and vulnerable in front of people. Mostly when I am terribly upset when I am outside, tears start flowing down my cheek and I cannot help it. Another thing is when people ask me why I am crying, I am afrai that the reason I give wold be found too t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Article in New york times |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 11:22 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,266
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why talk about waht is upsetting me |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 8:13 am
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Replies: 2
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| Woah! this sounds exactly like my life before I moved out. Now that I look back, my parents wanted to protect me but were not realizing that they were smothering me. I am too passive to tell this to them. If you have a sibling, talk to him/her into supporting you when you bring this up to your paren... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't think I'm lonely. I just want to be understood. |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 8:12 am
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Replies: 3
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| I am not totally selfish and can "be there" for others.. Most of the time, I am trying really hard to keep it together so you don't have to go through the trouble of putting me together when I throw a tantrum. So from my point of view, I am going through so much effort to save you the trouble. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Identity vs. Role Confusion |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2012, 7:46 am
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Replies: 6
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| I have been through this phase. But if I was unconsciously changing myself to something which is oriented opposite to my deep inherent nature, then I go through a lot of stress and anxeity and go to a highly neurotic nail biting phase. For example, I was trying to convince myself that I do not need ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I frustrate myself and others around me |
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Posted: 24 Nov 2012, 2:37 pm
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Replies: 4
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| What would make you happy? That is a real toughie! If I knew that properly, at least I can divert my energy in trying to achieve that. Same boat, different passengers - dont need ppl, but want ppl to interact with - meet someone new, smother them with attention, new person leaves or is scared off. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Self esteem in ASD research |
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Posted: 24 Nov 2012, 6:45 am
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Replies: 51
Views: 5,757
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| I am going through the diagnostic process now but not yet got my results. So if it won't mess with your statistics, I would like to participate in your study. |
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