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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Bored with life |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2013, 1:09 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I'm fairly close to you in age and I think I can relate to you about being bored with your current activities in life. For me, it isn't the first time I've felt this way - I've had periods like this off and on throughout my adulthood. While it's possible this could be a symptom of depression, as som... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social life expansion failures |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 9:11 am
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Replies: 8
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| My experience is slightly different seeing as I am still in high school however it does have some similarities. I often had (and have) trouble trying to branch out, my social skills aren't exactly brilliant (they kinda suck) but I did eventually find a way to make it work at least mildly well. My s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social life expansion failures |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 9:03 am
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| Destitude, if you're correct in your assumption that the husbands didn't wanna go because of you (and that is a big if, there might have been other reasons they cancelled), then maybe your wife should consider giving you a free evening and have a girls' night with her coworkers (if they are people ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social life expansion failures |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 8:57 am
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lelia wrote: It's time to stop asking those people over and ask some different people.
Certainly the flakes that cancelled won't be asked over again although similar stories have developed with others in the past too. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social life expansion failures |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 8:55 am
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| try a different tack, but keep trying. you will eventually succeed. Many tacks have been tried but ultimately they've failed for one reason or another. The tack I'm considering now is just to give up trying - it's not like it would make matters any worse. If opportunities come up, wonderful, otherw... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social life expansion failures |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 23 May 2013, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 8
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| About a month ago my wife invited a small gathering of coworkers and their husbands to come over for a dinner party during the upcoming weekend. A few days ago, one couple decided they can't make it. This morning, perhaps upon realizing the first couple couldn't make it, the other couple suddenly pr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 4:36 pm
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Replies: 12
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| All this anxiety, awkwardness and isolation makes a lot of sense now if I consider that I have Asperger's Syndrome. Okay, so I have an affliction that can explain my social failings. What do I do with it? Give up and use it as an excuse not to be social? By all means no!! ! Think positive. First of... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 4:11 pm
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Replies: 12
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| You could be suffering from asperger, otherwise there is no reason that you were exposed to people right from childhood but you couldnt gel with them. I wouldn't say my childhood interactions were complete failures - there was some moderate success in gelling with people, usually other individuals ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 12
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| All this anxiety, awkwardness and isolation makes a lot of sense now if I consider that I have Asperger's Syndrome. Okay, so I have an affliction that can explain my social failings. What do I do with it? Give up and use it as an excuse not to be social? Not at all. If you truly have aspergers than... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 4:02 pm
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| There are several other people who are loners who are not on a spectrum that share the same anxieties around people. Did you struggle with communication? Well, sort of. Sometimes I've been acused of being too 'robotic' or 'monotone'. I have no problem finding words but I think I have some issues wi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2013, 3:52 pm
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| I didn't feel socially isolated at all until I got to about 11, when I went up to High School. That was when I noticed how friendless I really was, and it got worse because all the other kids had their own groups to hang out with, and the whole idea of being at High School was to prove how social y... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 12
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| While your style of writing does seem very Aspie-like, I'm not the one who can fully answer that. Everyone's different ;P That said, if you need help with the marriage specifically, the Love and Dating forum would be nice. Thanks for the feedback. This one isn't really about marriage - it's more ab... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A history of social isolation |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 4:58 pm
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| My family has always been very social. Throughout my childhood, my parents regularly indulged in various weekend gatherings of friends. My sister spent her highschool years attending parties every other night, followed by much of the same in university. Now, in their elder years, my parents appear t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie/NT relationship and communication, PLZ HELP! |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2013, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 11
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| I don't think that communication is often the root problem in relationships, even with people with asperger's - or at least it's not for me and my boyfriend: even if we have daily if not hourly misunderstandigs we can solve most of them pacifically - here's a link that explains my idea better http:... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone from Ontario? |
| Destidude |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2013, 10:35 am
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Replies: 3
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie/NT relationship and communication, PLZ HELP! |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 2:08 pm
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Replies: 11
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| aspiegf, I'm not a big fan of ultimatums but it may come down to that to ensure real improvement. You'll need to make it clear something has to change if the relationship is to continue but be careful to make sure he's not left thinking you want to impose some sort of sacrifice upon him. If he deals... |
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