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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is my lack of aggression the problem? |
| TedMart |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2013, 11:31 am
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Replies: 7
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Okay. I've been on the internet since ...well...forever, and that is the probably the ONLY important page I have ever read.
Thank you for instantaneously putting my entire life into a pure, sharp focus that I wasn't even aware I was missing.
I am smiling now. right now. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is my lack of aggression the problem? |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2013, 10:59 am
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| Morph and Tahitii, I think you both nailed it! Since I became aware of my status on the 'Spectrum" I've begun to think that the NT mindset is actually the debility, or at least it would be if it wasn't the majority condition. Does a bushel of rotten apples mean the few good ripe ones are bad in comp... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is my lack of aggression the problem? |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2013, 7:58 am
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| My life situation changed drastically this past year, and I'm finding that life might actually be impossible for me in this society. I no longer have what little protection having some family around used to bring me. I'm completely on my own with no resources (my inheritance has been stolen) and I r... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Overwhelming confusion and hopelessness. |
| TedMart |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 8:27 am
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Replies: 9
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| Thank you both so much, even just the fact that you were willing to listen and give your thoughts on a stranger's problems reminds me that the joy of life IS still out there, however far out of my reach it may be at the moment. I've read all these comments over quite a few times and I'm working hard... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Overwhelming confusion and hopelessness. |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 9:53 pm
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| By "A Perfect Storm" I mean a completely random and rare, but devastating, collection of circumstances, like an almost unbelievable streak of bad luck, believable only because it is really there in front of you. I do wonder sometimes if I'm not just letting my recent experiences and reasonable depre... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Overwhelming confusion and hopelessness. |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 9:19 pm
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| Thank you so much. And I DO try to tell myself it's just temporary, I also know how much I still need to grieve, it's why I really, really, need a peaceful environment very soon. I have tried everything I can to find work, filled out any application I can find, I've even been able to continue tellin... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Overwhelming confusion and hopelessness. |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2013, 6:26 pm
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| Well, I'll tell ya, It seems to be getting to the point where it isn't a even question of "Wanting" to kill myself. My life has taken such a drastic and confusing turn for the worst that I honestly don't know if I even have the choice to stay alive anymore. For the last few years I had been sole car... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I wish this world would end |
| TedMart |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 11
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Goshey,
That gave me a good laugh! Your post came through just as I was watching "Doomsday Preppers" on TV. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Autism Rights Legal Organization |
| TedMart |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2013, 8:06 am
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Replies: 7
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| I wish more people had your willingness to help Aspies when it comes to the legal world. I'm facing a problem with receiving an inheritance that the executrix of the estate is trying to steal from me, but I've been trying to figure out how to make my way through the system and I just can't do it. I'... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Sibling troubles |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I have recently cut all ties with my siblings, except for legal matters. Just one example of why: My Mom passed away a few months ago, they never called or visited, I was her sole caregiver for years, and yet my sister called the Funeral Home and had my Mom's ashes sent to her in another state, with... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I wish this world would end |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 7:32 pm
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Replies: 11
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I CAN understand you, because I feel the very same way a lot of the time.
It gets frightening when I feel as though I am maybe somehow not capable of understanding what is going on around me, but then I realize that it actually isn't me, the world around me could very well be completely nuts. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Not doing so good... |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2013, 7:58 am
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| Zemanski, I wasn't aware the "rumination' was a well understood problem! I thought It was just me. I can see how important it is to break this rut and begin thinking in other directions. I will definitely look into the MBSR stuff and meditation, and I have already realized that any work I might get ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Not doing so good... |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2013, 5:50 pm
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| I think I also see now that you're suggesting that I am over-focusing on myself? is that what you mean by "self-talk"? and is that why you are suggesting some other diversion or a "purpose'? THAT would make a lot of sense. I do know that this same ...trouble? problem? just goes around and around in ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Not doing so good... |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2013, 5:26 pm
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| I think I see. I know what you mean by needing some sense of purpose, but the closest I have ever come to that was as caregiver for my Mom. It was really the only time I was "Called" to step up and do something meaningful. It wasn't something I decided I needed to do, it just happened and I only rec... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Not doing so good... |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2013, 4:03 pm
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Replies: 11
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I'm really not trying to be rude, but could you expand on that?
I seriously don't get what you're saying (I may just be blocking it out) but I DO want to understand it.
and Thank You. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate my life. I want to kill myself. |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2013, 3:58 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I agree with the responses so far, the "problem" doesn't seem to be YOU, it seems to be everyone else's little problems that they are pinning onto you. But I won't hold back, I DO think you are doing something wrong, and that is... You're letting other people matter TOO much. I don't know if it come... |
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