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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Any products you've found helpful...? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2012, 11:04 am
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Replies: 13
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| I got sent a link to these bracelets that are made to be chewed - they're actually not bad looking, and the website claims that they hold up pretty well and are bacteria resistant, but I haven't heard any reviews from anybody who's actually tried them... Do you think they'd fit a grown-up's wrist, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I explain my aversion to telephone conversations? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2012, 8:17 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 6,079
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| Personally, I don't feel absolutely obliged to answer an incoming call, because it's my phone and I can do what I want with it. If it's urgent, they can leave voicemail. However, I feel bad for the other person who may want to talk about a personal problem or a more complex practical thing, and not ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Any products you've found helpful...? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2012, 6:29 am
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| Here are two options: OPTION 1 http://kidcompanions.com/archives/products/circles-fidget-sampler (unless this doesn't suit your style) OPTION 2 Buy some surgical tubing, trim it to size, and push a pencil or pen into it. Then chew it. I got that advice from the boss of http://www.sensoryintelligence... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I explain my aversion to telephone conversations? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2012, 4:55 am
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| Like many aspies, I don't like speaking on the phone, even to people I care about. I need some advice about how to tell people this. The benefit of labels and brief 'scientific' explanations I have found that if I can understand why something is the way it is (e.g. "I have a problem in the top right... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: best coping strategies |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2012, 10:49 am
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Replies: 9
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| I agree, it can be different for different people. There are many things which I use including self-CBT (I mean, I can't afford an expert psychologist, so I do my own CBT). DBT (which is a therapy for people with extreme mood fluctuation) is also good. It's about what they call 'mindfulness'. But al... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Itchy before sensory overload |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2012, 4:27 am
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Replies: 4
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jamieevren1210 wrote: ...against the wall.
I think this is partially because of the ned for joint pressure, which helps to restore the senses. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Itchy before sensory overload |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2011, 4:26 am
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| When sensory overload is on its way, my head beneath scalp gets itchy. This is handy, because I can then take preventative measures and recover more quickly. At first, I can scratch it and if I go and rest in the dark, then it may dissipate, but if I don't, take care of it and remain in the situatio... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it wrong? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2011, 1:57 am
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Replies: 5
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| Well, it's not wrong in the moral sense, and it's not unusual, even for a non-aspie. In my opinion, don't resist it, just see where it goes. If he feels the same way, maybe it will eventually be possible to make a plan to be together. One of my neighbours dated via the Internet for about two years, ... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: "You don't dance to metal you idiot" |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 11:20 pm
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Replies: 17
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| You dance really well! :D But if I danced like that people would question my sexuality! I have a coordination problem also. Thank-you. Hahaha! This is Gotham: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2254745756&v=photos&so=540 - not so easy to get an idea of the dancing, though. The dancefloor... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: "You don't dance to metal you idiot" |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 10:47 pm
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| Well, this is me dancing: http://www.alphabetania.com/campaigns/site.nsf/pages/joqatana - not to metal and not my best performance (I wasn't warmed up, I didn't 'let go;), but I would include some of the same moves when dancing to metal. Dancing to metal is more intense, not quite so 'feminine'. I u... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: "You don't dance to metal you idiot" |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 10:26 pm
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OldFashioned wrote: Can you show me how? Or explain? You mean show you how to dance to metal or show you in what manner she is naive? |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: "You don't dance to metal you idiot" |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 10:24 pm
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| PS: I don't know what it's like in your country, but where I live, people don't necessarily ask each other whether they would like to dance. They just dance. And sometimes someone dances up to someone else, and then they dance together. Straight women also dance with each other in groups sometimes. ... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: "You don't dance to metal you idiot" |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2011, 10:16 pm
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| She is just naive and ignorant. Of course you dance to metal. Headbangers (inter alia) dance to metal. If you go to Gandalf's and Gotham (night clubs in Cape Town) or Die Mystic Boer (night club in Stellenbosch) you will find people dancing to metal. I dance to metal -- and I am not a metalhead or a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is It Possible To Be Aspie Without Meltdowns? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2011, 9:53 am
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Replies: 20
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| I had almost no meltdowns when I was a child. Unless I had ones when I was extremely young that I can't remember. I do remember one in which I beat up my toddler cousin when she (in toddler stupidity rather than malice) broke some kind of giant dolls' maze or something which my brother and I had lai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is It Possible To Be Aspie Without Meltdowns? |
| Alphabetania |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2011, 8:36 am
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Replies: 20
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| I tend to shutdown rather than meltdown, always have. I've always figures if I'd melted down more externally my AS may have been picked earlier. I have an aspie friend like that and life is much harder for her because people don't see her suffering. Sensory shutdowns (where your senses become so ov... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is It Possible To Be Aspie Without Meltdowns? |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2011, 8:31 am
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Replies: 20
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| I'd say if life never becomes overwhelming enough for you to have a meltdown, you don't really have a problem, therefore no handicapping 'disability'. I think the other people who responded to this, misunderstood it. How I understand it is: If life never becomes overwhelming enough for you to have ... |
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