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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Finding people from good old past I used to ignore |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2012, 6:31 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,310
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| If these are people you're only vaguely acquainted with from years ago and you never even learned their names, chances are that looking them up and contacting them from another country (or town, or state, or anywhere but running into them coincidentally and starting a conversation) would be seen as ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Stuck... |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2012, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,080
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| Have you ever been in a situation before where you're self-sufficient and autonomous and it's relatively sustainable? I ask because I know that when I am, there is a sense of gratification and focus and purpose that I get from it that is very hard to imagine when I am not in that situation. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Maybe this will be a useful wake up call for some here.... |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2012, 9:32 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 6,516
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| I don't care what a person (I happen to be a straight female) makes as long as they're self-reliant. That is incredibly important to me. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: and an another wake up call for some others here.... |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2012, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 4,672
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| I think it's pretty sad for someone to spend money and hours and hours of their time on self improvement just to get the girls. Wouldn't it be better to do this for yourself rather than to just get laid? Plus that whole acting-like-you're-doing-it-for-yourself-and-not-to-impress-girls thing really ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's JUST his ASPERGERS!! |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2012, 9:28 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 5,387
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| I suppose this could be true, but a emphasis on it being from illness and not from themselves would cause issues. That's definitely true--after all, the origin of this entire discussion was the idea of people resting too heavily on a diagnosis as an excuse. I just want to make sure we don't dismiss... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did anybody else have trouble understanding Monday's xkcd? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2012, 9:51 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 4,143
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| the impression i get from reading through it once is that it is more effective to show someone something and let them draw their own conclusions about it, rather than expecting them to feel the same way as you do about it simply based on what you tell them about it without them having seen it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's JUST his ASPERGERS!! |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2012, 5:23 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 5,387
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| Unreasonable levels of aggression can most definitely stem from mental illness. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Twisting hair = stim ? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2012, 4:32 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,783
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| I play with my hair all the time. I also pull out hairs one by one, especially if I'm anxious. I try not to for fear of developing a full-blown case of trichitellomania. |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: What Music Makes You Sad? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2012, 7:37 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,345
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| "some broken hearts never mend" by don williams. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I get rid of this guy? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2012, 7:33 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,883
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| He hates Jews, and he supports genocide so I could just tell him that I'm Jewish. Once again, why are you trying to put yourself down if you were put down by others enough due to your Asperger. Here is a better strategy. DON'T tell him you are Jewish. Rather tell him that if he supports genocide HE... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: My 14 year old sister hates being called a woman? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2012, 7:27 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,956
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Tequila wrote: 'Girl' is meant far, far more of an insult, either patronisingly or in a misogynistic sense here.
I suppose it's yet another one of those subjective things...where I am, it's considered socially neutral/acceptable to refer to women of any age as 'girls'. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Dealing with depression. |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2012, 7:05 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 925
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I do those things to deal with depression. Doesn't eliminate it or anything, but it gives me a sense of purpose and control and it keeps me feeling better physically.
I find that volunteering or doing stuff to help others helps, too. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are you into couple dancing? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2012, 7:02 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,951
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| i love dancing! lots of different kinds! |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: DON'T TAKE THE DEPO SHOT!! ! |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2012, 11:52 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 12,933
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| I was on it for about a year and it was horrible. I gained 20 pounds, was severely depressed/irritable, had lots of meltdowns, didn't get my period (I don't care if it's found medically acceptable, disrupting my cycle like that is crazy)...ugh! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies:what were you like in high school |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2012, 11:27 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 5,277
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| I was kind of spacey and didn't really understand how to work the system. I had been reading books instead of paying attention in class since gradeschool, so my grades were floundering. I was awkward with other people and they made me feel anxious, but I managed to get along with a certain set anywa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: My 14 year old sister hates being called a woman? |
| justalouise |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2012, 11:19 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,956
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| The term 'woman' implies a certain level of formality or detachment to most people. Also, like many things associated with the state of being female, it's often used as something of an epithet and tends to carry those overtones, whether intentionally or not. |
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