Hi Krista,
Welcome to the forum, I'm new here too
In answer to your question, 'do I need a diagnosis?', I think you should ask yourself, 'What do I need it for?'
We on the spectrum love lists and well defined points and tend to gloss over things that are more woolly and open to interpretation. Did you, like me, and I'm sure, many others, look at the DSM for aspergers and tick off many of the traits described in criteria A and B, then gloss over Criterion C on account of it being too vague.
When it comes to your question, I believe that this is the important part so I'll reproduce it here:
'C. The disturbance causes clinically significant impairment in social,
occupational, or other important areas of functioning.'
Remember, we are what we are and adding a label doesn't change that. What the label does is it allows the mechanisms of society to recognize us as being eligible for help if we need it.
I have met many self-diagnosed aspies who have ticked all the boxes for criteria A and B yet they have jobs, girlfriends/boyfriends, a social life and just about everything else anyone could ask for. Where is the clinically significant impairment?
So how is it for you? Is there a clinically significant impairment for which you need help? If you got yourself the official label, would the help be available? Would you use it? Do you need it?
Getting a label for the sake of being able to know what you are is to confuse symbol with reality. You ARE what you ARE, and incidentally, you are perfect, in my humble opinion.
I got myself the label and it didn't get me any official help. Knowing that I am aspergers and therefore what to google for if I needed to know more about myself or find others like me was a help, sure, but the actual diagnosis hasn't made one bit of difference. From what I can see, it just took up the time of a very busy psychiatrist. I can't help feeling that others may have needed his time more that me.
Having said that, it's probably in all our interests for us all to be officially diagnosed because the more of us there are, the more money the establishment is likely to allocate toward services for us. So maybe there's an argument for getting diagnosed even if it won't lead to direct help for you.
Li