Anybody here have been through a 'racist' phase?

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Eh, the closest I get to actual racism is the mental groans I make when foreigners of any color come into the restaurant I work in, as I know that I'm going to have to listen to the servers complain if they don't tip or tip poorly, which is usually. My boss has actually started just auto-grating them, which helps some, but it still pisses everyone off when we work our asses off to please someone and they still stiff us, cultural ignorance or not. It was worse when I worked front of the house myself, every person who's ever done service work has become at least a little bit racist, at least for a few minutes after getting shafted by someone of a different ethnicity than themselves, or sometimes even the same one.

Fun trick: if you ever want to learn new and innovative racial slurs and you work at a restaurant, seat a large and cheap looking group of people in the section of a waiter of the same ethnicity, then hang out in the kitchen to hear them venting; I guarantee, you'll hear terms of abuse you'd never even dreamed of before.

I also used to believe in stereotypes to a larger extent than I do now, due to having been placed in one of those unfortunate social experiments where they put the only gifted program in the school district in the middle of the poorest and most violent neighborhood in the city, in this case the black neighborhood. I guess the idea was that some sort of "cross pollination" would take place, where as the actual and completely predictable result was a school that was fractured on racial and socioeconomic lines that fought constantly and viciously. Having only that very negative personal experience to go on for some years, I didn't have a very high opinion of black culture, though I never got to the point of actually hating or being suspicious of black people. Thankfully, I got over that.

Finally, I had a period of flirtation with hipster racism, or "ironic" pseudo-racism as the case was, though that was always a very private joke between me and some close friends. That's one of those things that I regard as social edge play; funny if you do it right, but really easy to fall off and make an ass of yourself; I was always working with a safety net, as having a black girlfriend/spouse makes you pretty much race card proof, especially to other white people.

I don't think it's a big deal if you aren't hurting other people. Thought crimes should not exist.

Most people are racist at one point or another but its usually temporary like if they have had a bad experience with someone of another ethnic group and they call that person by a racial slur they may not always mean it but when people get mad the can be nasty. Another factor is out of humor usuing steriotypical jokes but one must be careful not to offend another and if so out of humor one must make fun of himself as a race at times. Take the chappelle show for example a lot of his skits may seem rather racist towards white people etc but its not out of hatred its out of making fun he makes fun of his own group as well. Its all out of simple cheap humor maybe not the wisest way for most because it can offend and hurt others feelings though.

No, I've never been through a racist phase. Don't know if it has to do with the fact that I am mixed race. But if it is just a phase for most people, that would be really hopeful.
I hate so called 'rational racists'. They're all over youtube and other public websites where they can remain anonymous. When you confront them with their behaviours they will get personal and say things like: "those stupid black women", or "you crazy asian man" and when you try to argument them they get offensive and use ad hominems all over the place. Yet they deny that they are racists or that their comments display racist thoughts/beliefs. It just really strikes me that people can act so obviously racist yet deny that they are racist or anything that comes close.
If find those so called 'rational racists' are the worst. Hypocricy at its purest if you ask me.