Homophobes are gay

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A friend, who had attended the Catholic Gonzaga University in Spokane, had told me how there was a priest and instructor who was vehemently homophobic in his lectures. He told me his gay friends on campus had said this priest was hung like a horse.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

What are the implications of the statement, that Homophobes are gay. Is it that they might be frightened of actually being repressed homosexuals. That might be true in a few cases, but overall I don't buy it.

More likely, they are frightened by the reaction of their peers and relatives. Imagine that you were a gay or bisexual teenager surrounded by peers who use the term gay as an insult and boast with their heterosexuality. Male kids are especially eager to do this. Anything that remotely reminds them of homosexuality or gender-ambiguity is immediately mocked, called gay, and made out to be something horrible and disgusting. Gay kids who want to fit in and be accepted (who doesn't) learn to go with the program, and fake both an interest in the opposite gender as well as greatly exaggerated disgust for all things homosexual. Ask any gay person; chances are that they went through this phase of denial and/or play-acting as an adolescent.

Now add orthodox Abrahamic religions to this picture, which teach kids long before they hit puberty that homosexual urges and behavior are a grave sin and a one-way ticket to hell. And let's not forget about parents who would be devastated if they found out that their offspring is gay. Their reaction doesn't even have to involve homophobia, it might simply be the dread that their child is somehow different from the norm and will never give them any grandchildren.

This social pressure and the contempt of gay people shown by peers, parents, priests, and large parts of society in general, can be so strong that it drives gay teenagers into suicide. Compared to that, the desperate attempt to conform to social and religious norms by denying one's sexuality (or one side of it) is an easier way out. Of course closeted gay or bi people who are trying to pass as "normal" need to constantly reaffirm and justify this difficult decision by telling themselves and others that they are doing the "right thing". Think of people like Ted Haggard, who did not only marry and had children, he also felt the need to rain down gay hatred and homophobia from the pulpit every Sunday. "If I can't have it, nobody can".

Note, too, the visceral, defensive reaction of a few people who briefly entered the discussion.

"How dare you start a topic on the link between homophobia and repressed homosexuality! You should be banned from the internet!"

If someone really isn't interested in a topic, then all he has to do is ignore it and either participate in a different discussion that does interest him, or start his own topic.

One implication of the article is that it may become more difficult for people who don't want to be suspected of a repressed homosexual orientation to come out with overtly homophobic statements. Repressed homosexuals are going to be very confused about what to do.

Rick Perry and Frothy Santorum did play to homophobia among Repugnican voters, which must mean that they were keenly aware of a very large undercurrent of repressed homosexuality within the party.

Thanks for the interesting article.

I just want to know if I can be gay without being homosexual.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gay

Also, can a gay person have sombre sex? Or is it always "bright, lively"?
I mean, I have gay sex with my wife all the time, but it's heterosexual.

(Just a point about words. No offense intended.)

Of course. You're right, as usual.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kmv3WlKa6U8[/youtube]

That was a great scene. Oh, the frustration in Sandler's character...

It's a sure sign of acting genius when a dramatic actor like Jack Nicholson can pull off comedy so perfectly.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

Thanks for your explanation CatLord. You may know that public expressions of homophobia are illegal here in the UK. So any expressions of disgust are silent, or people keep their opinions to themselves. We do have the UK eqivalent of rednecks who can be violent at times. They certainly don't get that from The Bible though. I don't understand homosexuality myself. I can sympathise because we can all be born with certain things, like Asperger's for example. Then I found out that somebody who had been close to me had been sexually abused as a child. She became a lesbian after two failed marriages. I have to wonder why people single out homosexuality and smoking as the great sins of our time.

With smoking, it certainly isn't a repressed desire to take up smoking.

With homosexuality, it certainly is.

...and to stay away from something that is noxious and stinky, as one might stay away from a skunk.

But, come to think of it, placing a phallic-shaped instrument into one's mouth and sucking in the hot fumes--that might be a manifestation of certain repressed desires.

Romney had to give the boot to another homosexual

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/ticket/open ... 51633.html

Not true. Hate speech etc is. Simply voicing homophobic views isn't. Plenty of religious leaders do it all the time.



Not the same. Homosexuality isa difference. Aspergers, whether we like it or not, is a disability.





People do not "become" gay. Have you considered that maybe her marriages failed because she was gay, rather than the other way round?

And there is no evidence to suggest that gay people are gay because they were sexually abused as a child

I can agree with this because the only reason why it was viewed as a sin in the bible was because at the time they thought sex with the same gender caused diease to spread so to stop this they made it a moral law saying anyone that has sex with the same gender was viewed unclean.

Its a silly law that I do not follow I view a lot of bibcal laws as silly to be honest.

Perhaps members of the homosexual subculture will adorn themselves with 'I hate gays' motifs, as a signal that they are interested.



I agree with this part of the article.

I am determined to hate not the homosexual, homophobe, or homophobic homosexual.

If a homophobic homosexual prefers to identify more as a homosexual, or a homophobe, that is their choice.