sage_gerard wrote:
DW_a_mom wrote:
The kinds of families that break up like that are usually one's that shouldn't have been together in the first place.
When you have real choices, you usually make better one's.
Wow. Thanks. That made my parents' divorce much easier to process.
My parents were nothing more but fake choices because they were doomed to fail! Never mind victims of circumstance, the only "real" choices are soulmates!
I guess I should not have tried to answer that in so few sentences.
It is, obviously, a lot more complicated than either of our posts indicated, and honestly I wasn't sure why you were making that point.
In my mind, I saw all those women who married because there was no other choice for women, who may never have cared much for their husbands, and those in awful marriages who stay because they can't afford to do anything else. The marriages where the kids know something is wrong ... and that affects the children negatively, too. For generations it was often accepted practice for men to cheat, and get their pleasures elsewhere, and often children only knew their fathers as distant authoritarian figures. It's not like the old nuclear family was always a beautiful thing.
I do know there are a whole bunch of factors running in the other direction, but digging into all that would take more time than I am willing to invest in this post.
I am sorry you have it difficult with your parents, but I'm not sure it would be any better if they were living in the same house.
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).