My niece passed away

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Thank you for your caring sentiments, everyone.

Sorry for your loss,and for the kids.Addiction leaves so many families devastated.Nothing can be done unless they want to get help.

I’m so sorry it went this way, Bea. I have a cousin lost (not dead yet, but might as well be) to heroin and meth and poor mental health choices and a taste for abusive men. It’s a whole special kind of suckage I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

I'm sorry for your loss

Thanks again for the support.

I was sad but did not cry until tonight, when I read tributes from many people on my niece's Facebook page. Delayed grieving is typical for me.

It is telling, but not surprising, that I am barely hearing from my own relatives. My family of origin is so dysfunctional, and my sister's branch even more so. We cope (?) with stress by not talking about it.

Sweet Pea hugs

I'm very sorry to hear about your neice.

Piggy Hugs.

was it liver failure?

anyway, i hope this does not sound callous, but when everyone you love has passed away, there is nothing left to worry about.

you could not have prevented it unless you kidnapped her years ago and kept her in a basement where she could not drink.

moths fly into the flames. they can not help it.

You certainly have had a lot to deal with over this past year, and now this. Sometimes life just throws us these trials one after another. I am sorry that you now have to contend with this important loss as well, and hope that the year to come will be a much gentler phase for you.

The cause of death was probably end-stage liver disease. She had been in that condition for well over 6 years, which is far longer than most people in ESLD survive. Yes, she was an addict. But I also knew from personal experience that her mother was abusive to her from childhood on. And so when my sister committed suicide last winter (that #*%@), I never shed a tear. I have shed many for my niece.

I am reminding myself that it's OK to be sad for a while. I am coping OK. Thank you for the condolences.

Take your time, Bea. Don't let anyone try to convince you that "you should be over it by now".

My condolences go out to you for your loss of your niece, Bea.

(((BeaArthur)))

I am sorry your world feels so dark, BeaArthur.

I'm sorry for your loss. ((Bea))