Do you fit in anywhere?

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Do you fit in anywhere?

Do you feel or think that you fit in anywhere, like an aspie group or your local tennis/football club or other sports club?

Would it be your church where you fit in or a local pub where its just regulars who have known you forever?

Do you only fit in online in an aspie group or another more specialized online group?

Or don't you fit in anywhere for very long at all?

What do you think, always a square peg in a round hole or always just arriving on the wrong planet?

Lets talk about this.

No. I don't fit in with the girls because I'm a tomboy. I don't fit in with the guys at the pub because I'm a woman. I don't fit in with the goths because I don't like to wear attention grabbing gear anymore and am too anxious to make the meetups, and I've never fitted in with mainstream NT society. I don't even fit in with other Aspies I think.

But I still talk to some people of these groups online.

i voted "no groups or places".

i do not fit in to anything except my own existence.

I do not fit in anywhere, so I voted 'no groups or places'.

I fit in a few places. As I grew up, I felt completely isolated, but now I've found other 'different' people.

This is something that keeps changing for me. I used to feel like I belonged in a lot of places. With longtime good friends, aspie online groups, other online groups, church, at the pub. But now most of that has changed. I've become more of a hermit and the only place I truly feel comfortable is my aspie online groups. I tried doing the friend meetup recently and it was really really hard. I spent the entire weekend in a high state of anxiety and on the verge of a meltdown.

I have a very select group of people I feel comfortable being around IRL for extended periods of time and (not counting immediate family) that comes down to 3 people.

I don't really feel like I "fit in" anywhere... not even in my own head...

I fit into my family i guess, although since that wasn't an option i selected that i do not fit in.

I'm not sure...

I don't feel like I fit in anywhere, but maybe I do?

For me, it's online Aspie groups.

I "fit" with a group of individuals based apon need to do so to perform a function. I am adept at doing this, although I don't naturally "fit" with any particular group. I am able to assimilate the behavioural functions required to interact with one person subliminally, and so interact with them without hesitation, and so not give them the impression I am consciously interpreting their behaviour in order to respond. Even then I have limited operation of this skill, and in scenarios like long term relationships I am prone to revealing a side of myself that is nearly entirely non-verbal, strange, but apon the basis established understandable as simply an act of communicative laziness.

...not according to the want ads, I don't...

I only fit in with my friends. If I lose them, there's no doubt in my mind it will take years to to fit in anywhere if I can.

It's more of a comfort thing than being too odd, though.

I don't think anyone 'fits in' at any place on their first time. I did have a lot of problems with finding a social group to fit into in the past, but nowadays things are much easier. I have multiple groups of friends that I interact with. As far as the role I play in those groups, I guess you could describe me as the Silent Bob; a quite bearded guy that doesn't say much and is usually surrounded by obnoxiously loud and funny people.

I don't fit in anywhere, but I don't really try to either.

if someone fits in "anywhere", then they fit in to every niche that can be.

i fit in to "somewhere", and that is only one place, and i can not describe it because i "occupy" it, and my view of it is obscured because i can not see through myself. i am a solid even on a spiritual level.