list of female AS traits

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You are beautifully unique, and most definitely not alone, sister from another mister.

thank you for that pandorazmtbox
after 26 years of feeling alone in the world and like something is wrong, I'm wrong for not being like everyone else, this just gave me a sense of happiness and relief

Just found this thread from last Fall...
I found this very enlightening!
Very indepth...This answers so many
of the questions of why my behavior
over the years, with family, boyfriends,
schoolmates and even my son at present,
can get so confusing and chaotic at times!
Wow...And all these years I thought I was
just nuts...and so did they!

Anjie

Thank you for posting this, my whole life is now starting to make sense! I actually ended up here as I have a online friend who has asperger's and wanted to learn more about it. Slowly as I started to read more I felt like I was reading about myself, especially when I got to this topic. Almost all of those describe me, even showed my parents this list today and told them that I think I have Asperger's and they agree and they now understand why I have been so different ever since I was a young child.

I think it means that women have more practical obsessions over men, but mine aren't ever practical. I obsess over fictional characters. Although, sometimes I use them as an alter-ego (if the character is confident or brave) and I can handle situations better. I just kind of do the whole, What Would ? Do? LOL That really does sound a little insane...

If you like or love that chart you would love the book it came from - Aspergirls by Rudy Simone. I've read it three times through now and want to give a copy to everyone I'm close to.

I have recently read Aspergirls by Rudy Simone and I have to say that it was the slowest reading that I have ever given a book in my entire life. So much applied to me and my life. It brought up so much from my past and cleared up any remaining doubts I might have had in regards to me and having Asperger Syndrome. I had to read it slowly because it actually kept making me meltdown and retreat to under my blankets. But, it was wonderful to read.

Finally I understand why, unlike all the normal girls, I hate shopping, especially grocery shopping. I finally understand why I am so sensitive to almost everything and why I frequently close myself off from almost everything. I finally don't feel quite so guilty about both my physical and emotional meltdowns.

I read everything that I can on Asperger Syndrome and this book was the first of anything that I found mentioning the visions. It's good to know, it isn't just me.

Serena

Well, it's just an Asperger tinged of female NT who is described. I don't recognize myself.

I match 3, maybe 4, of the traits. Would have been nice to match most of them, just to be able to say "I fit in" for once.

The summary (table 2) fits me better than the chart (table 1). I am relatively girly-girl though. >.>

I watched a youtube video interview with the author (Rudy Simone) about this yesterday. She stated that the symptoms aren't really that different between male and female Aspies, but that they are perceived differently by others based on gender.

for example: the casual dress is perceived from the outside as "depression or not caring for one's appearance" in females, whereas in males it's not.

It's not that the symptoms are different, it's how they affect women that are different. Women tend to fly under the radar of Asperger's diagnosis because of some of these things. For instance, women tend to be able to command expressions a little better overall than men, so in an Aspie woman, a psychiatrist may mistake that as being neurotypical because the woman can mirror gestures and socially blend in better than a male can. But it doesn't mean she doesn't have to think about it. The obsessions usually aren't identified because females are sort of known for being obsessive? For instance, an Aspie woman might collect hundreds of recipes. Why would a psychiatrist think that was weird? She might collect books and books of pressed flowers or pretty gems she finds, or antiques. But the most that would tip off a psychiatrist would be, if it were in so much excess that the family had to step in, possibly having an anxiety disorder. There's not a whole lot a man could collect in that amount that would be normal for a man to collect, except boxes of smut magazines, guns, or things Aspies don't generally seem to be interested in anyway.

It's sexist, yes, but psychiatrists and psychologist do separate female and male psyches as being inherently different because of hormones, so while it's sexist and detrimental to females in the Aspergers community, it's a fact we have to deal with. You will frequently get psychologists telling you that you don't have Aspergers because you may be better at blending in socially than a male, but that doesn't mean squat. If you feel the way you feel and it aligns with Autism symptoms, it's probably some type of Autism. It's not like diagnosing cancer or diabetes (I'm pulling this from Autism Speaks who seemed to compare Autism to a terminal illness like a bunch of dolts) where you need a thorough medical exam and you 'could maybe have it, or it could be a benign tumor, or it could be 50,000 other things like a cyst'. No. If a woman feels she probably has Autism, she probably does, and she needs to be persistent with her doctor about getting to the bottom of it and not be told 'no' because she's a woman who's flying under the radar.

'Scuse me, I had to rant.

That chart fits me...like...perfectly...and whoever's husband thought she was batsh*t crazy for considering AS...so did mine and I was diagnosed officially a few months ago

~Kate

Table 1 fits me almost perfectly, and I'm not diagnosed. I fit almost ALL the criteria on that list! Thanks!! That helped me realize I'm not alone in my awkwardness!!

appearance sounds a lot like me so far musciality, I can read notes as good as books but I suck at creating original music myself, totally opposite from partner whi can't read notes and similar but just can play to a song when he hears it .some points of the second column are also spot on.

That is so validating! Many of those traits are mine. I sent a link to my boyfriend, so that he can understand me better.