06 Feb 2022, 5:03 am
Think I can enjoy Katherine Hepburn , quote . 
06 Feb 2022, 5:10 am
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06 Feb 2022, 5:24 am
Are divorce rates actually that high? If so, I wonder how same sex and heterosexual divorce rates differ. I don't know. I'm just skeptical of the idea that men and women genuinely dislike each other on some deep level.
in america they are that high. and among gay couples it is even higher, last i checked. it is that people in general have a hard time learning how to truly meld with another human, all the differences get in the way. that is why kate hepburn said what she did about how men and women weren't well-suited for one another, that it'd be better if they dropped in on each other now and then.
Wait a minute...if the divorce rate of gay couples is higher than that hetero couples then that kinda refutes what Hepburn said. It would mean that folks of the same sex are even worse suited to each other than those of the opposite sex.
BINGO!!
what she should have said is that PEOPLE are generally not so well suited for EACH OTHER.
06 Feb 2022, 5:25 am
06 Feb 2022, 5:42 am
what she should have said is that PEOPLE are generally not so well suited for EACH OTHER.I believe people can be well-suited for one another. If they're the right two people. A rare thing.
It's a miracle people get along as it is. It's a massive compromise, living with somebody. You can feel powerless. I like my own space. I need to feel some control. I can totally understand people, who need their own space too. The high divorce rates. I think that's because it was never based on anything substantial. Alot of marriages are just lust. Lust wear off , and after a few years. If personalities are not really compatible. That's when it crumbles. (So says science. And personal observation.)
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06 Feb 2022, 5:44 am
what she should have said is that PEOPLE are generally not so well suited for EACH OTHER.I believe people can be well-suited for one another. If they're the right two people. A rare thing.
It's a miracle people get along as it is. It's a massive compromise, living with somebody. You can feel powerless. I like my own space. I need to feel some control. I can totally understand people, who need their own space too. The high divorce rates. I think that's because it was never based on anything substantial. Alot of marriages are just lust. Lust wear off , and after a few years. If personalities are not really compatible. That's when it crumbles. (So says science. And personal observation.)
it is just as hard to find a truly compatible person, as it is to shoot a bullet at another bullet headed towards the first bullet.
06 Feb 2022, 5:55 am
06 Feb 2022, 6:02 am
Ah testosterone. He's beginning to 'act like a man' Don Corleone would be proud...I guess when his 'sonny' got killed, Don Corleone had a sudden testosterone drop...cause he cried like a baby, if I remember....
Yeah, I think loss of relatives is one acceptable time to cry.
Cynicism vs. Idealism. If you're right, then that makes life a little more grim than it needs to be.
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07 Feb 2022, 7:54 pm
what she should have said is that PEOPLE are generally not so well suited for EACH OTHER.I believe people can be well-suited for one another. If they're the right two people. A rare thing.
It's a miracle people get along as it is. It's a massive compromise, living with somebody. You can feel powerless. I like my own space. I need to feel some control. I can totally understand people, who need their own space too. The high divorce rates. I think that's because it was never based on anything substantial. Alot of marriages are just lust. Lust wear off , and after a few years. If personalities are not really compatible. That's when it crumbles. (So says science. And personal observation.)
Another romantic as I believe you are correct. The times have changed and marriage has become a business deal. I still think there is someone out there for me, a soul mate. I'll keep looking or die.
07 Feb 2022, 9:31 pm
Managed 13 yrs, with plans for the road onto the end of our lives . At 7 years the newness wore off.. talked extensively for about a week. Then he set himself a office in a structure that we had bought and built on the property , with extra storage capacity’s . Managed the rest of our time together quite well through thick and thin.
Till his demise. We were both raised with much older values than current generations .. Just
Wanted to say .. Love can last. , just hard to find these days . Love can move from Eros to agape … in ones lifetime.
Best wishes in your search . 
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07 Feb 2022, 11:43 pm
i was born on the wrong planet. my love is somewhere else in this galaxy or universe, or in time.
08 Feb 2022, 3:45 am
Till his demise. We were both raised with much older values than current generations .. Just
Wanted to say .. Love can last. , just hard to find these days . Love can move from Eros to agape … in ones lifetime.
Best wishes in your search .
Great post Jakki
Maybe the better question is: if it didn't last, was it love?
05 Mar 2022, 7:08 pm
