How to look UNapproachable to men.

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Just don't comb your hair and get it all dirty. Also, tuck in your pants and pull your socks REAL high.

Back when I had a pixie cut and didn't wear makeup, men not only didn't talk to me, but told me things like, "If only you were sexy, you'd be the perfect girlfriend."

So if you feel like sacrificing your hair...

Are you trying to take the piss?... thats NOT what she said.

Thats the biggest pile of s**t i've ever heard.

Everyone gets approached by awful, creepy men, even "pretty" girls. For some reason some of us attract creeps more than others. I get people with intellectual disibilities hitting on me, Men who seem like they have no social skills and invade your space, the ones who just sit ad stare at you from the corner before coming over, it makes you very uncomfortable. I may not be perfect but I am NOT to their level.

I hope I'm undesireable to you too, you sound bitter and concieted about something thats not even the case here.

I get some decent guys who I'm just not interested in come upto me, and yeah thats fine, not really looking to date. We aren't talking about EVERYONE who approaches us. We are talking about CREEPY men who approach us. This member unfortunately seems to get more creepy ones than normal ones, so she feels like she can only attract creepy men, which, I assure you, everyone gets.

Also creepy men see social awkwardness in women as an opening. It probably doesn't help having aspergers. The best thing to ward off creepy men is confidence. If you can't do that, then just don't look at them, and ignore them if they invade your personal space.

What do you expect? Someone to go, ow wow, how neat! I keep getting hit on by awful men who make me feel uncomfortable!
Get with it.

Even if you want attention from anyone, I can assure you most people DON'T. Even ask some of the males here who moan about being single if they would want some girl with Downs syndrome constantly coming onto them? I doubt it.

Hear hear

The type of men who approach a woman has nothing to do with the woman, it has to do with the men.
My male friends don't understand this either, I think because women aren't taught to approach men, and so they're NEVER approached, and thus see any attention as positive attention.

I'm not a super model, but I'm not bad looking, and still the only people who hit on me are homeless drunks. This isn't because my "level" is homeless drunks! It's because homeless drunks have no inhibitions, so they're not struck with shy feelings upon seeing a pretty girl, they just shout things about million dollar smiles and such.

It's not the woman's fault if the only men who are uninhibited enough to approach her are creeps; just think about the kind of people who have no problem walking up to a strange woman and hitting on her.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! Isn't AS considered to be a sort of mild disability? What about spelling errors? Why would you fault a guy for something that may be similar to something with which you, yourself have been diagnosed? Just to be clear, I don't think anyone should say "yes" to just anyone who approaches. Do these guys a favor and keep them open and available for someone who does find them attractive.

Yes, I have also been one to stare from a distance. However, I am getting a better understanding of why not to do this, and nowadays I will only talk to new women who know someone else I know. Otherwise, I risk being judged as creepy and at times even my own response can be bad if I'm feeling compromised or if the woman doesn't know anyone I know or there are only other strangers around. Also, not every woman thinks I'm creepy. The ones who don't think I'm creepy usually have a lot of relationship experience and are already in relationships.

I don't get why YOU are getting defensive, when the OP was not calling YOU a creepy guy. In fact, she was not talking about you at all! Your comments approach paranoia, IMO. But then, if the shoe fits, by all means wear it.

I'm a guy by the way and I suggest to all male-fellows to not continue any flame argumentation on this thread. With that I will only mention what an aspie woman told me on what she does.

She wears a wedding ring while she gives private lessons to students in primary and secondary education. It is to ward off the child's male parents. As she continues to wear it I guess it works.

To let some male students concentrate on the lesson she wears a sweater that covers her bra/(breasts). That will probably also help against male parents of the student which can be a great problem.

No, it is not the pot calling the kettle black. I do not have an intellectual disibility. I have aspergers, which is seen as a disibility, but I tend to act normal or I risk creeping people out myself. Aspie guys can learn to act in a way thats not seen as creepy, if I can. Anyway, I wasn't talking about aspie guys when I said that. Aspergers is not an intellectual disibility.

Social awkwardness is ok, i'm not really attracted to it but socially awkward does not have to mean creepy.

Well, OK so it's not an intellectual disability insofar as one's intellectual capacities are not affected by it. Which is good, because if it were an intellectual disability, then I guess that'd be real bad! I can act "normal" for a limited time, but sooner or later, the real self gets through. Then the cannibal jokes come out. How exactly does one act "not creepy"? I keep catching myself either staring too much or not staring enough apparently. However, attraction goes something beyond merely not creepy. I'm not sure I can ever get there. I'll probably be like Mr. Burns when I get old.

Wear masculine clothes. That's what I do.

How well that works might depend on body type. I used to wear a lot of masculine clothing -- men's clothing, in fact, as I was a sales associate in a men's clothing store. On me, all the masculine clothing did was emphasize my feminity. I'm not a large person to begin with, and the men's clothing, even in the smallest size, was big enough that I looked smaller than I was. I'm small-boned, have always been seen as smaller than I am, and people seemed to think I was some kind of delicate china doll. I got comments like "pixielike" and "adorable" from various sources. It certainly didn't seem to put men off.

I actually got less attention when I dressed in casual women's clothes! Sometimes I'd get a bit of gentle teasing from my guy friends ("Oh my god, Rose is a girl!") and stuff, but I didn't mind ("Yeah, check it out, boobs and everything!"). I think a woman blessed with a stronger physique than my own might cut back on unwanted attention by dressing in a masculine way, but it didn't seem to work for me.

The worse you try and make yourself look wont get rid of creeps, like someone said already, its possible if you look worse you get more because they think they have a chance.

Confidence gets rid of them.

Agreed! they think they have a chance, because they equate lack of concern about one's appearance, with lowered standards in general. I have found that the more confidence I exude, the less creepy types feel comfortable with approaching me!

I was at a stoplight the other day and there were some men with buckets approaching cars for some charity or another. I had my sunglasses on and no expression on my face but as one of them cames toward me he suddenly stopped and backed away. I guess I come by it naturally.