Girls- what do you find most attractive/sexy in a guy?

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09 May 2007, 4:02 am

funny
tall
hair that falls on the face
dark hair and light eyes
nice jaw line
taste in music
artist/musician
tattoos/piercings



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09 May 2007, 2:47 pm

very intelligent
witty sense of humor
creative
fun
serious
a little shy
musican (dosen't have to be but I like musicians)


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09 May 2007, 7:55 pm

What was I looking for? Brainpower. Nothing more, nothing less.
That's how I ended up with my husband, the smartest man I could find who could put up with me!



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11 May 2007, 11:27 am

Sense of humar and a laid back personality.



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11 May 2007, 10:49 pm

I never heard so much lies in all my life! Stop living in LALA land and enter the real world! its not Alice in Wonderland!

'Treat them mean keep them kean', thats my motto. its the only way to keep women in line and thats the way they like it (and need it) deep down! its the only way!

So stop kidding yourself it's otherwise. They're happier when they have boundaries and know their place. Believe me - you can bring a woman to water AND make her drink!

They really do need to know who's the boss! And its not just Bruce Springsteen- its all men!

i said to her "So love, get that big cookery book I got you for your birthday and get into the kitchen and whip me up something nice"

or you won't get the anal sex you're always begging for!



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21 May 2007, 9:51 pm

Devotion, definitely...and care, warmth, oh! Lots of snuggles too. I love snuggles.



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22 May 2007, 2:49 pm

Respect, Commitment, Gentleness, big muscles, loving eyes, devotion especially, funniness, Sincerity, Faithfulness... everything good!



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31 Jul 2007, 7:55 am

wow I don't fit ANY of those descriptions... I feel so inadequate :cry: . The closest one I cam to matching was this one:

Intelligent. (Not a genius but mostly)
Caring. (I can't even tell you how many sob stories ive helped people with)
Not obsessed with football. (I hate Football, and most sports in general)
Shy. (Mostly)
Excellent hygiene. (My Hygene isn't very good, but only cuz I have no-one to impress :wink: )
Very honest, to the point of being blunt would be acceptable. (Yeah, my honesty gets me in trouble cuz I am very blunt)
Patient. (very)
Fairly well spoken English accent, or a southern Irish accent would be good.. (I am american, and have an accent as such, but I can do a pretty good imitation)
Maybe a beard too.. (I have a short one, but I actually prefer being clean shaven- I just havent bothered shaving for a week :lol: )



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06 Aug 2007, 7:10 am

oboejive wrote:
Devotion, definitely...and care, warmth, oh! Lots of snuggles too. I love snuggles.
Yes, I think an affectionate nature is very important in a man. Also being able to cry when something really sad happens.


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04 Oct 2007, 10:15 am

a man who talks to me....and has great david lines


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04 Oct 2007, 2:29 pm

I used to like a certain type of guy. I would have a keen eye for certain physical characteristic and well, that is likely where alot of my issues lie.

Over the years, things have changed dramatically.

I have always been accused of being attracted to people that "didn't measure up" by my NT circle of people. I could never really figure out how they could be so rude and say such things, but it was common for people to be judgmental of my preference. I have never cared for looks...

Now, more than anything in this world, I love these qualities in my partner:

Humourous
Affectionate
Intelligent
Romantic
Thougtful
Helpful
Relaxed
Open to new experiences and spontaneous!

The British accent is killer also! :wink:


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06 Oct 2007, 1:09 am

the man below is exactly the type I loath--abusive, controlling, sexist as*holes. wake up, idiot, the women you've been dating are either masochistic psychos or terribly insecure.

squatterandtheant wrote:
I never heard so much lies in all my life! Stop living in LALA land and enter the real world! its not Alice in Wonderland!

'Treat them mean keep them kean', thats my motto. its the only way to keep women in line and thats the way they like it (and need it) deep down! its the only way!

So stop kidding yourself it's otherwise. They're happier when they have boundaries and know their place. Believe me - you can bring a woman to water AND make her drink!

They really do need to know who's the boss! And its not just Bruce Springsteen- its all men!

i said to her "So love, get that big cookery book I got you for your birthday and get into the kitchen and whip me up something nice"

or you won't get the anal sex you're always begging for!



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06 Oct 2007, 1:26 am

if you can also solve hard math problems or write computer programs and/or fix things around the house, you are my ideal man. the post below sums up what I'm looking for in man fairly well. I have just a few qualities to add to the list:
-treats me like HUMAN BEING. i.e., understands that women are HUMAN. they are not brainless pathetic creatures who need to be saved. they are not b*****s who need to be abused and controlled. they are human, they have emotions, thoughts, etc. I want someone who'll be interested in getting to know me as a human being, who would listen to what I am saying. likewise, I also want to be engaged and challenged intellectually.
-likes warm temperatures. I hate those men who set their thermostat to 60 degrees in the winter and make their wives and children freeze. 75-80 degrees is my comfort zone


I am really turned on by men with nerdy tendencies. It's so arousing to see a man who is completely absorbed in writing a computer program or solving a complicated math problem. it's also very charming to see a cute, very smart nerd who is insecure and doesn't realize how much I want him. I like to take the first step when it comes to sex; I hate feeling pressured and I like to do things at my pace.

appearance, by itself, doesn't matter to me. I dated a very good-looking guy by the societal standards once, and it was annoying because he was obsessed about his look. all the other guys I was in love with were perhaps unattractive by our society's standards, but they were attractive to ME because of their personal qualities.

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As a man, I am curious how I stack up to some of these qualifiers. Of course, I'm not hitting on you at all, just curious as to how well I stand next to others in the scheme of things:

There's not one thing - it's a package. I guess the Must Haves to be remotely attractive are:

~a significant amount of raw intelligence ("educated" or "uneducated" really doesn't matter)


I've always been told by others how intelligent I am. I've even taken one of those silly online tests that measures your IQ, and the results it came back with was 138. It called me a "facts curator," and compared me to Bill Gates. My father is an intellectual, and so I assume I picked up his intelligence through genetics heritage, and creativity came from my mothers side.

~an overabundance of common sense, and control over it

Yep, got that too. I drive very safely, somewhat passively, and are very forgiving of other drivers.

~a kind and quiet nature

People would define me as very shy. I am introverted, and I care a great deal about others feelings. Empathic to an extreme almost, I find myself breaking down in tears whenever I hear very strong sad emotions in others voices or when they cry. I cannot stop my own reactions, I used to be able to filter them, but not anymore.

~a healthy sense of humor (any variety)

People would call my sense of humor weird. To this day, I can recall something funny that I read or saw or heard decades before, and laugh as loud and hard as if it were told anew. I love puns, wordplay, and Garfield.

~a sense of wonder that still is intact, even after all that

That's one thing I've always refused to give up, my sense of wonderment about the world. I still stare at awe at a beautiful sunset, get all warm and fuzzy looking upon a bright sunny day, sunrising over a grassy field. I love nature, and photography of natural objects, you should see my photo album. It has very few humans in it other than some relatives, mostly it has tons of natural wonders. Footprinted sand along a lonely beach, Salty crusted turned up mud down in the so called Devil's Golf Course in Death Valley, California, A winding forest path that seems lost in the mists of time....

~an innate understanding of duty and responsibility (including where it starts *and* ends)

I live on my own so this is a must for me to remain financially independent.

~drive - he must have something, anything, he's really passionate about. (No languishing, angsting couch potatos need apply. )

I am passionate about my spirituality, my creativity, artwork, music, photography, and my love for games, both in playing and in creating them. I have a variation of hexagonal chess I've invented, but have yet to publish because Chess isn't all that popular.

~the ability to be accepting of "ecentricities" in others

Being eccentric myself, I understand the mindset of those with such unique qualities.

~adaptability and versatility - a "survivor"

I've survived on my own, single, lonely, for the last 16 years out of high school. I haven't given up life yet, no matter what is thrown at me.

~above all, he must be comfortable in his own skin, ok with who and what he is.

I'm almost too comfortable with my own skin. The only things I don't like about myself, see below....


That being said, on the flip side, the immediate disqualifiers would be:

~loud, crude individuals


Fortunately, I hate those people with a passion as much as you do.

~cruel individuals - if they'll mistreat any living thing in any way, I don't want to know them

Whenever I find a moth, or a large spider, or any other miserable tiny creature in my house, I carefully scoop it up in my hand, gently carry it to the outside, and release it into the plants of the garden outside. But I kill ants, and wasps that invade. I guess I'm selective on what I let live.

~intolerant, controlling personalities

You will like me.... you find yourself admiring my wondeeeerfuuuul quaaalitieeesss..... theeeseee aren't the droooids you are looooking fooooor..... ~waves hand mysteriously~

~obesity - sorry, it's just a turnoff. I prefer my men without excessive fat on them.

Zing, 1000 points against me. :cry:

I used to be lean in High School and for half of my adult life. Then I drank beer. I got to 240 lbs being 6' tall. So far I've lost 20lbs and still going down. I still have a tummy and love handles, but there's no fat elsewhere, except [self censored data omitted]. I want to reach 190lbs, so my drivers license no longer lies.

~I've already been a mother: I don't want to be his. (Nor the reverse scenario)

My search is for someone for me to care for, not the other way around.

~guys who smell bad. Smelling like a male after hard physical work or just generically is fine. Actually, it's pretty nice. Not bathing for a month and smelling like a dirty body sprouting fungus is not fine.

I shower every day and wear that Axe deodorant stuff. I've noticed how women react to it, and it can be scary at times.

A few other ladies:
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Kind, weird, witty, affectionate.

That's me in a nutshell. Of course, it's quite crammed in that nutshell, and gives me the heebie jeebies, so I try not to get locked up in nutshells very often.

Hamster wrote:
I honestly don't have a specific type -- I've had relationships with fat men, short men, tall and slender, beautiful, and homely men -- they all had many qualities in common, however:

1) Great sense of humor -- if a man doesn't make me laugh, he sucks
2) Intellect -- must be able to converse on a wide variety of subjects
3) At least *some* artistic ability, be it writing, painting, sketching, music
4) CLEAN, smells nice at ALL times
5) Confident -- is able to give me my space and not whine like a little b***h about it
6) Patient -- because I've been known to stretch even the hardiest quite thin :oops:
7) Excellent work ethic -- Slackers or players can go to hell
8) Kind -- MUST be compassionate toward all living things
9) Pleasing voice
10) Great-looking forearms and hands -- I go weak at the sight


I agree whole heartedly about the humor thing. I seek a female companion that loves my sense of humor. If she doesn't, then nothing else matters. My woman must love my sense of humor or it will never work out, without question. I drive people at work crazy sometimes with the different subjects I throw at them, to the point that I've stop trying to bother. I have always had creativity as a child growing up, and lately I've let it slip due to the pressures of the real world. However, recently I've invested in an electronic grand piano, because I'm going to teach myself to play. I also believe in smelling nice all the time. Of course, if I had a girlfriend, I'd shower twice a day instead of the regular once a day. Confidence is something I have to work on, mostly because I don't have a very high opinion of myself when it comes to women. I never feel like I'm good enough for them. My self esteem has been practically zero, but that's mostly due to my complete and utter failure to ever score a girlfriend my entire life. I am exceedingly patient, just sit in the drivers seat of my car if you need to know. I do consider myself a hard worker, and I would never be a player. Compassion towards all living things except ants and wasps. My voice probably isn't pleasing. You be the judge, I did post a video of myself on the video thread, so you have something to go on. As far as forearms and hands, same thing, view the video.

Also, I can cook, and I have to, living alone. I hate eating out unless its a nice restaurant, and I loath McDonald's food, unless its their bagel breakfasts, which aren't half bad. They aren't half good either, but I gotta eat when I'm rushing out the door to go to work don't I?

I am a meticulous neat freak, when I do clean my home up that is. I had a nervous break down nearly ten years back and have lost my immaculate style since then. So if something could repair the break in my mind and heart, I could return to that perfectionism I once had.

Three posts down is my youtube self video

Please tell me what you think my chances with women are, and please don't be afraid to reply to my comments. For some reason, I am getting the impression that women flee even from my posts here, since every thread I've replied to in this forum ended with my replies.

:cry:



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06 Oct 2007, 11:05 am

lonelyLady wrote:
the man below is exactly the type I loath--abusive, controlling, sexist as*holes. wake up, idiot, the women you've been dating are either masochistic psychos or terribly insecure.

squatterandtheant wrote:
I never heard so much lies in all my life! Stop living in LALA land and enter the real world! its not Alice in Wonderland!

'Treat them mean keep them kean', thats my motto. its the only way to keep women in line and thats the way they like it (and need it) deep down! its the only way!

So stop kidding yourself it's otherwise. They're happier when they have boundaries and know their place. Believe me - you can bring a woman to water AND make her drink!

They really do need to know who's the boss! And its not just Bruce Springsteen- its all men!

i said to her "So love, get that big cookery book I got you for your birthday and get into the kitchen and whip me up something nice"

or you won't get the anal sex you're always begging for!


I was taking the piss. :lol:



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06 Oct 2007, 4:53 pm

intelligence and non-frat boy behavior. Nice eyes. I don't care for muscles but I'm not against them. Not sure if I have a set body type although I know when I'm attracted to someone, I just don't have a set definition of physical body structures.



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08 Oct 2007, 6:26 pm

Kitsy wrote:
intelligence and non-frat boy behavior. Nice eyes. I don't care for muscles but I'm not against them. Not sure if I have a set body type although I know when I'm attracted to someone, I just don't have a set definition of physical body structures.


You wanna hook up baby? 8)