How to decrease one's sex drive?

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Yes it does, mine has gone. I am married and my husband can vouch for that also. It kills the libido of women stone cold

Maybe that why the pill really works? You can't get pregnant if you don't have sex

I have a hormonal IUD, and even though it's a smaller dose of hormones than the pill, it pretty much nixed my sex drive too (not to mention halting my periods altogether). It is convenient, to say the least, although I imagine it's a little like being on lithium when one is bipolar: sometimes the ups seem worth the downs. I haven't yet decided if I'll have it replaced at the end of its five-year life span.

I'm a nymphomaniac (who can't stand people, so I don't get much that isn't solo) and... uh, if I knew a way, I'd share, but I really don't know of any. Lemme know if you hear of anything!

I'm 17 and I've got a boyfriend living at home that I'm super-crazy about, and vice versa, but... my sex drive is sometimes higher than his, and his is sometimes higher than mine. While the second issue isn't all that horrible, the first keeps me up at night at keeps me from focusing on things that need focusing on. :/ I tried looking up how to deal with it a moment ago, and my goodness, I was super surprised when it brought me to this forum. It's SO very comforting to know that I'm not alone with this. I'm on birth control and depression medication, and neither have dropped my libido at all, I wasn't even aware of these side-effects. I've also tried getting myself off on my own, and my golly, it does nothing but make things worse. :/ I was pretty shocked when I saw how common this little issue is, I identified with a whole lot of what I read here. Thanks all!

I'm about to menstruate, and I currently get a stabbing pain behind my obliques that I can only assume is ovarian whenever I masturbate or orgasm...Fun...

This is a problem for me now. A big problem. I want to find someone to settle down and spend the rest of life with. But I also want sex, lots of sex. And so far none of my partners can keep up. I end up sneaking around. Or when I'm not with anyone slutting around . I don't want to be that girl. My libido is high and my impulse control is bad, I usually end up pulling any potentional life mat into the bedroom on the first date and never hearing from them again. I want to crush and destroy this, demonic thing inside of me.

Finmagic - I am a guy, but I understand how you feel.

I am in my mid-30's with three kids, and still have a similar problem. My wife has seemed to completely shut off interest in sex. I wish I could do the same, but I can't, and think about it quite often. I feel that masturbating is not a solution for me because it just "feeds" the sex drive. In fact, I don't really feel like my sex drive has decreased over the years, so it means that my wife and I are at opposite extremes of the spectrum, which makes it quite difficult for me. I don't want to decrease my sex drive only because she is not interested in it anymore, but also because I feel that it distracts me quite often during the day thinking about it and "dealing" with it. Obviously, in the seldom times I do have sex it quashes my desire for the day, but again, it is VERY seldom that I have sex.

In short, even if you find someone to settle down and spend the rest of your life with, this might still be a problem later on. By the way, I don't think that you need to "crush and destroy" it, you just need to control it, which is what I want to do. If you crush and destroy it you might feel like you lost a part of you forever. And I don't believe that it's demonic - everybody has the desire, just at different levels. People like you and I simply have a much higher desire for it.

That being said, I am still looking for a solution. Any ideas? Feel free to share.

Ok Im too tired to read this thread now. But yeah, Im on seroquel and side effect reduced sex drive. I will read this later......

I have a similar problem my sex drive is through the roof!! I sit here and cant stop thinking about sex. There are days that the thoughts consume me and I just wanna do it constantly!! Who would have though that to be a problem?? It kind of is because my boyfriend has a good sex drive just doesnt compair to mine and I think he thinks he just cant statisfy me fully. Im willing to try almost anything and looking for suggestions. I have toys and use them it cuts down the urge but not completely.
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It's so strange and slightly comforting to know that I'm not the only one – psych meds have done nothing to help and last year I spent so much time just trying to alleviate the itch and getting nothing productive done. Now I'm in a relationship but my partner's sex drive is nowhere near my own, which has caused strife and annoyance. He's wonderful and we do have amazing sex, but even though i know it's not feasible to have it for as much as my sex drive would want, I still sometimes can't help myself and it's just... So, so annoying.

I really do wish to decrease it or just reign it in, because I am tired of this sexual desire taking up so much of my time and thoughts. Just reduce it, but not completely be rid of it.

I'm a guy and found this site by googling "how to decrease sex drive." For religious purposes, I dont want to have sex. But I think I have a sex demon or something. It's all I think about. When I see a woman, I picture her in bed with me making love. I am a really nice guy and would love to find a great lady to settle down with. I have a FWB, but because of my religous beliefs, feel guilty every time, which is about once a week. It would be more if I didnt have the religous guilt. She wants to marry me but she's not my type, except in bed. I am orgasmic focused, so we match in bed. I want to just not see her or have any sex at all, until I meet a special lady. But the desire is overwhelming! I dont watch porn and try not to masturbate, but if I go too long, it gets painful physically.

If I had a great lady that was very sexual and sensual, I wouldnt have any problems. But until then I dont want to have sex at all. I want the lady I meet to be very special to me, and I feel guilty about that too, since I have the FWB.

Any ideas on what I could do to stop these thoughts and desires? They take over and are so overwhelming, especially in the morning when I am groggy - when I cant fight it. I was hoping to find a herbal drug that I could take to make me not want sex and not get an erection. Any ideas?

Ranjon, depo provera will do what you want, another member on this site has used it to rein in his sex drive that was affecting his life in bad ways. There are side effects though, but it may be worth it to you.

Gee I wish I had your problem.

Drugs kill it. I know you said something that's not drugs, but I can safely say they do.

Hi everyone, I used to have the same problem until I came across this great method. You see I am a Muslim and what we basically do to decrease libido is we fast. Islamic fasting goes like this: you don't eat or drink anything ( even water ) plus you don't have sex (or masturbate) from sunrise to sunset. you do this two or three times a week and you'll find that your sex drive is significantly reduced that you'll barely even think about sex anymore. This method basically comes from an advise of prophet Muhammad that says:
"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. abstain from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Also, another thing that I found really helps is when you do eat avoid fatty foods and avoid eating too much.
That's it, I hope this helps someone. I know it helped me, A LOT.

I'm late to the discussion, but do not use chasteberry for lowering sex drive, as it actually can work in a number of ways on females, depending on what your particular body decides to do with it - including increasing your periods so they're like a freaking river. You can really mess yourself up messing with your hormones - and that's what chasteberry does (though hopefully in a good way if it's being used for what it does right).

That being said, when I've wanted my sex drive to lessen or go away, I've found being very stringent about avoiding any sexual discussion, movies, readings, talk, etc helped by not fanning the flames. I also practiced seeing everyone around me as a sister or brother - a technique I've heard monks and nuns doing. Other than that, just getting older helped.