How to decrease one's sex drive?

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Since being on antipsychotics I just have no sex drive whatsoever, none at all. Dunno whether I prefer it that way or not but it's happened for years

You really can't just make your sex drive go away..

One option is that you could just invest in a sex toy.. As weird as that may sound. Because it does provide you with a sexual outlet of some form. While it may sound weird and what not it's good to be open minded about things like that. Because medication can really do weird things to libio and sex drive as well as natural supplements when not well researched.

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I can't post links yet, but folks with this issue (or other sexuality-related concerns) might try visiting a sex therapist. You should be able to find a certified one through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (google ASSECT). Sex therapists are knowledgeable about the wide range of pharmacological and therapeutic options for reducing, or more likely managing, sex drive so that it's no longer causing distress. There's no silver bullet because sex is a complicated mix of body, mind, and sociality. A knowledgeable helper should be useful in finding a personal solution.

Yep, all my ex's were crazy or neglectful and dating is exhausting. So I have no healthy sexual outlet. I don't enjoy sex unless it's in a safe and secure relationship. I'm glad I'm not alone. I destroyed a relationship with my ex (kinda glad I burned that bridge) because I wanted to have sex and would get angry as hell if he didn't come through. I would rather not get it all than wait for a convient time for my f**k buddy.

well as you see im trying to lower my libido cause honestly I like to be able to not think about getting some all the time it is a horrible feeling cause then I get angry and mad cause im not getting any...If I could I would do it every day all day but my bf cant keep up and has a very low libido.We normally do it whenever he watches porn and well that is okay but it feels like forever before I get laid so I tried this I go and masturbate three times a day and sometimes it help I just want a proven method that works cause it driving me nuts

I don't know why you would want to do that, but take lots of antidepressants. That stuff is a sure fire way to wreck your sex drive.

I want to find non-prescription ways to lower mine too. I just got married to this great guy and we have sex 3 to 5 times a week, but still my drive is way past his. It's not uncommon for me to ask him to get arrested for public indecency with me.

Maybe I can convince him to have an open marriage? As long as I get my housechores done and get to work on time... why not? I'd prefer being monogamous but at the same time there are things I want that he won't give.
Geez if I could afford a therapist.

Not sure if it is ok for a man to post here or not, However I have a friend of mind who is a teen girl and she is a 3rd degree thai chi. She has such good self control that when she gets turned on she can simply ignore it. And then when she gets a bf she goes crazy. I think that if you were to look into an art of self discipline you could do it well. Similar to monks and nuns who pray alot i think yoga or thai chi (as it is also a meditative martial art) would help you greatly.

Yeah there are things online about Eastern thought and sex drive and how people use visualizations of moving their energy up from "down there" into their upper body and mind to stop being horny and instead be really mentally creative.

There is this intense "creative energy" thing and our brains are really poetic and can take pretty much anything and make it about sex, and I think people can have all that energy and think they can only use it on sex. If you're really stupid then you could end up a slave to your sex organs, but if you're intellectually superior, you could find all kinds of ways to metaphorically "make it" with other people. Right now I'm so creative and so intellectually superior that I can visualize the world as one gigantic beautiful complex act of sex, or like one of those French Gothic cathedrals, and then I can say love is all about sex and sex is all love without lying at all. It relieves the tension. Lennon and I get this, but I understand its possible this may not work for everyone because they aren't smart enough.

OK so first you have to accept that the drive is there, then you accept that it is OK and you are not perverted, then if it won't hurt you or anyone else you should enjoy it a little (that's the tricky part though because people get hurt a lot about it because they have attachment issues (which makes no sense to me, but whatever!)), and then you have to move on and decide what to do with "all the extra." You have to be specific about it too. You can't just say you aren't going to masturbate with it. You have to reformat it. And if you could do this very well you could do more great things that other people admire, and then go home and really love yourself completely because even something that primitive and beastly inside you can be turned into good and help other people.

I'm having more success concentrating with tai chi, but Yoga is more difficult. I can't sit still. Also I think if I went to a class, everyone would expect me to be good at it since I'm naturally skinny and look the part. That's what happened when I tried Zumba with my mom.

TRY THIS BOOK

Google search "The Initiation PDF" (wrongplanet won't let me post a link)

The author's name is Elizabeth Haich and it should be the first or second search result

It's free. It's an interesting story. And to date I've found nothing as effective in reducing my own sex drive.

I wish all of you the best

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Some anti-depressants and birth control pills can numb or dull the sex drive.

I guess my first question would be, what about having a partner makes sex fulfilling as opposed to on your own? Is it sex you are craving, social attachments you most easily understand through sex or something else entirely?
When my testosterone was out of control I felt like many here are describing. Wearing pants with any kind of seam in the crotch was impossible. But I could get relief through self pleasure. Some times I did crave a partner, but by and large I could get there on my own and be perfectly content.
Aspie women as a population have higher levels of PCOS and other hormone sensitivities. When I have a male partner my cycles actually function better because of the residual hormones I absorb through body contact and smell. It's entirely possible this exchange is also what you are after.

Just get married then your sex drive will drop.

Try to avoid ones that turn u on.. Maybe u r still in love with somebody. I love a man who is married with two sons.. and i can't be with him, so am high on sex drive too.. true.. i can't concentrate on anything but having sex..

my friends said chocolates increase your libido or women's sex drive. try to avoid that too...

I would have said "LOL, Welcome to being a Man " in reply to such remarks, until I read this thread; I did not truly understand (only kinda sensed, as if through a fog) the idea that women could also experience that dilemma. So you are not stupid and it isn't nonsense; many people want to wait for love but their body wants sex in the meantime.

I guess that, traditionally, men are brought up to think of ourselves as the only ones who have that problem, especially in religious families (I'm an atheist now, but was brought up as a fundamentalist Anglican christian).