Does anyone love non sexual affection?

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I love hugs and kisses from people that I am very close to like my husband or my brother but I don't really like sexual affection so much. That feels awkward to me and uncomfortable and sometimes even a little scary even though I know that my husband would never ever do anything to hurt me or scare me on purpose. But I love it when my husband gives me non sexual kisses. I love the affection my older brother gives me as well. He hugs me a lot and I love it because it is like the kind of reassuring and pure affection that you would give to a little kid like to your child. That kind of affection makes me feel safe in a little kid sort of way and for some reason feeling that kind of safety is very important to me.

I know a lot of you are sensitive to touch and I can be as well but to certain types of touch or sensations on my skin like if someone breathes on me. I can't stand that. Or if I touch certain textures I get very sensitive. And I know a lot of you are not comfortable with physical contact but I am wondering if anyone else loves certain types of physical contact and affection as well especially non sexual affection and contact.

I'm still young, so I can't speak much to this. I enjoy hugs, as long as they are brief, and I like to hold hands. I cannot stand being kissed, I hate it. I also don't like having people lean on me, no heads on my shoulder or in my lap, it makes me very tense. The few forms of sexual affection I have been exposed to thus far I have hated, the set my nerves on edge and make me want to go rock in a corner.

I do . I was always a rather clingy kid in this regard but I learned to stop that behavior as I grew up. It's something I've always missed since. To me it feels really personal and not necessarily something I am comfortable having with a friend (unless they initiate it and its just small gestures like a pat on the shoulder or whatever). It's more of a relationship thing but I've never been in a relationship so I don't know what thats like. I am (possibly?) asexual so finding into a relationship seems rather hard. At the same time I have a desire for the non-sexual parts of a relationship, like physical affection or just being close to someone. So is tough.

Sexual affection is fine with me... depending on the situation.

Anyways affection-depends. Here's my list...

Kissing-Yes
Hugging-No
Cuddling-Yes
Head leaning-No
Arm wrap around-No
Hand holding-Yes
Hair stroking-Yes

I was raised in the way that you hug and kiss women on the cheek when you see them (family members and maybe extends to family friends), and I do that sometimes with people (women) I feel endeared to, though some prefer the whole air kissing thing (which feels awkward to me). Also sometimes say "babe" (rarely) to a friend but that's to do with the kindof common sub culture I was raised in.

I love hard hugs and cuddling, so I prefer non-sexual affection. Only from people I am really close to though. It's not that I don't like sex, but I have such a hard time with light touch and mouth noises that it can become very uncomfortable. Sometimes it's easier to stick with non-sexual affection than set up more complicated boundaries. Cuddling while reading to one another has got to be my favorite thing.

Personally I feel it's a shame that; either people are lovers or friends without much in between. I've heard in edwardian times it was normal for friends to share a bed and even cuddle. There are reports of strait married males cuddling in bed because that's just what humans like to do.

Whilst I'm all for non-sexual contact I'm also fine with all sexual contact (within reason). There are a few things I hate; even though I'm a bit heavy some people do pick me up, and I feel slightly panicked when that happens. I also dislike unsolicited touching, tapping me on the shoulder, or patting me on the butt. I also don't like being physically close to certain people; for example when people stand too closely to my face when talking to me.

I'm generally quite needy, I love to be made to feel loved and I love touching, hugging and kissing when in a bedroom situation. I also don't really like being groaped by people who I don't know that well, but I'm sure most people feel the same way.

All Normal right?

I think as a very young child, I had like non-sexual touch, but over time that changed, I think I was probably about 10 or so when it started that I couldn't stand it. Now, a handshake is the most I can tolerate from most people, even family members, but I absolutely love affection if it's coming from a close female friend or a girlfriend when I am in a relationship. I don't know why.

I like the idea of it, but in truth I'm only comfortable with my immediate family touching me for any reason. I will tolerate it on rare occasions from others, but it's not pleasant. Definitely no light or unexpected touching, but I find cuddling very soothing.

I like non-sexual affection (though I do like sexual affection equally), but not so much contact expressing it. I guess it depends on the context. For me, I like that kind of affection when it's something no one has to show or discusses. It's just something one can sense. There's something about this kind of affection that I like. It's not complicated and shouldn't be awkward: it just merely is. But about contact, it's all about the context Like, once this year at university, a graduating friend gave me a big hug, as he was really going to miss all of us. I liked that, but it "felt right" within the friendship context.

I'm pretty unphysical. More so w/ age. Live on commune, the hippies are hugging just about anything that moves; they learned fast I'm not to be touched.

I used to hate touching of any kind. I love sex & the passion it gives, but now... my husband turned me into a cuddler!

I cuddle on him, play in his hair, steal his hands when they're not being used, or just poke his face, which is the only action he dislikes.

I adore when he holds me from behind & can make me feel safe. He hasn't done it in so long though. I think I shall sneak my back into his chest tonight. See how that goes. Ilove when he strokes my hair, massages my back, & holds my hand. I even love when he blows air on my cheek instead of kissin on me, but don't tell him that!!