Anyone literally never leave the house?

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02 Jun 2010, 1:25 pm

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My NT extroverted friend says he doesn't understand how I don't need any company in my life .......

Anyone else a complete recluse and not mind it?


I don't understand why so many people DO need company... and so much of it too.

Good thread question.

Apart from work, vacations and eating out with my family, I'd be quite happy staying within the boundaries of my property.


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12 Jul 2010, 12:30 am

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I am in the same boat. I am a 27 year old male. I live with my parents and I have only left the house a handful times in the last year. That was only to go to the liquor store. I avoid ANY human contact. I time my sleep schedule so I am awake when my parents are asleep and vice-versa. I have severe social anxiety and cannot be around others. I want to be suicidal, but have not reached that point, so I do other things to shorten my lifespan. I drink heavily, I barely move ( my feet are constantly cold and have no feeling in my feet) and I started eating unhealthy foods. Anything I can do to shorten my life. I was diagnosed with aspie as a child, but still believe that it was misdiagnosed. The doctor I saw over a year ago said I have severe social anxiety. I used to have a job that paid over 50k (US) a year. I had a girlfriend and friends. I had a 1650 square foot apartment in midtown Kansas City, MO. I had a decent life. I had to give all of that up because of social anxiety.

This seems very odd to me. As a sufferer of social anxiety disorder I would bet that keeping all those assets you said you had would be the easy part. Acquiring them is the difficult part. I see SAD as being mainly a problem of acquisition, but once passing that threshold, everything should be fine. So I assume that all of which you had was probably given to you. Perhaps even on a silver platter?
Not trying to be rude, just curious, due to what seems to me to be anomalous.



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12 Jul 2010, 11:11 am

I have to leave my house. I go for walks and I work.



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12 Jul 2010, 12:18 pm

I'm another recluse. If society didn't exist then I might go out and see the outdoors sometimes, but given the circumstances that would undoubtedly be extremely unpleasant.



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12 Jul 2010, 12:30 pm

I only go out to go to work.


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12 Jul 2010, 1:32 pm

While I used to go out by myself to places and occasionally with people, I seen to be becoming more recluse by the day. It wouldn't be so bad if I had more things to interest myself. I spend a lot of time thinking I should do so and so, which could be something like reading a book, but I'll talk myself out of it before I do, so I'm basically stuck on the fence. I think that I've just been depressed for so long that I have lost what it was that gave me pleasure.



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12 Jul 2010, 8:57 pm

Years ago I suddenly stopped hanging out with my friends because they got too into drugs. After that I was really depressed and didn't go out for a year. I never bothered making new friends and I go outside maybe once a month now. It's not so bad.



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13 Jul 2010, 3:33 am

I rarely leave my house for two reasons.. hardly no friends as i cant socialise easily and two.. my special interests and my need to do them overtakes my life..and they are things i do indoors.

Last time i left my house was over a week back and that was to go to a medical appointment. I can go weeks without leaving my house (if i dont have any appointments).

i dont fear people so its not social anxiety stopping me from leaving the house.. when a rare opportunity comes up in which i can get out with aquantences (my issue is i cant drive). i do get lonely at times (but find people very hard to be around!! and usualy dont stay in their presence for long on the rare occassions i leave the house).

Fortunately i currently have a boyfriend..who visits me once or twice a week... and he's my people contact to the rest of the world (other than me communicating by online forums).



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13 Jul 2010, 3:48 am

I go a little nutty if I don't leave the house. But not because I need to see people, I just need the fresh air to stay sane.


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13 Jul 2010, 3:35 pm

I rarely leave the house. I used to go outside almost everyday when I was a kid, but I just feel awkward now.

I still live with my parents. I don't really know how to go about getting a job because I only have an 8th grade education and I don't even know how to go anywhere by myself without getting lost.



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13 Jul 2010, 8:56 pm

I have to get out of the house or else I'll go crazy. :jester:


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13 Jul 2010, 11:22 pm

Nah, I HATE just staying in the house. I have a small apt. so it drives me nuts. I go to work and run errands but, on the weekends, I tend to stay in. After about a month of not going out on the weekends I'm done. I feel a need to socialize now more than when I was younger.



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13 Jul 2010, 11:47 pm

I wish I actually did live in a fortified bunker. When I get a place of my own. my basement will contain my private room (the kids can have a fun room). I am obsessed with "com" center. If I were to have an apartment I hope I get the corner one that the end of the hall. Or hell Darth Vaders shell. Or a little stone vault-house in Iron Forge. I explore the town, and just walk into this guys house, and into his bedroom. Which was at a lower level, with a little fire place. This would be PERFECT for me.

When Farmville was popular, I had a little corner where my house was, surrounded by a thick wall of fruit trees as well fruit trees bordering the edges of my farm.



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15 Mar 2011, 4:05 pm

well i guess i am technically a recluse after 2 years of unemployment. i used to live with all my friends in a big city in one house, loads of fun, but i literally despised my job. When i got laid off i did everything to never go back into the industry. Then I got hooked on unemployment, and unlimited vacation. After three years of hell at a job i hated, I was now enabled to do whatever I want. Well unemployment and the severance took me so far, so the next step was get a job, or take another year of time off and move back home. How easily I got sucked in, and ended up moving back home in with my parent, and no bills. Not guna lie, i've loved the time off, and i half regret leaving. Because now its like going out to get a job is the most daunting idea for me. But no more benefits left. Lots of money saved. Still no direction. Honestly I feel like the world is kind of a sham. Its like whats worth stressing out over for money out there for.

I think my friends think im crazy now. But looking back at when i was working, that's when i was really crazy.



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15 Mar 2011, 4:37 pm

I do not literally never leave the house. I go to college, but when I am not at college or riding the bus to and from college I am at home. =[


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15 Mar 2011, 4:52 pm

I have always had a job so never the luxury of not going out at all. That said, I went for years with just work and home and bare essentials (like grocery store) and I liked that just fine. The problem is that even though it is "easier" on one level to go "dark" like this, it also results in depression or other unhealthy behaviors (like forgetting to bathe and eat and sleep correctly) I have learned in this life that the less I go out the harder it is for me to get out. As such I make a point to get OUT and into town at some event at least 1-2 times a week outside of work. Right now I am playing on a football team and get out even more than that but I have to retire from that after this season as it is just too much. Still, I will make sure to stay connect via some club or group or activity and try to stay healthier.