"Aspie-dar?"

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I've noticed many people here mention others that they thought could be on the spectrum. I've met only two, my best friend Nicki, and someone I work with, but without knowing their inner thoughts, how could I be sure? Brandon strikes me as a total Aspie, yet he mentions parties and going out frequently, and that seems odd. Nicki has all of the traits, yet has not triggered the same response in me as Brandon. So, they both seem vetoed, yet either could be.

I'm gay, and I'm used to the term "gaydar," which I suppose can apply in some cases, yet I doubt its efficacy, as I would never know if I were missing someone who was gay. Perhaps I'm only judging on easily visible traits, just as almost anyone could.

Is there an "Aspiedar?" Thoughts?

I sometimes wonder if someone is on the spectrum by noticing a few odd behaviors, or behaviors that are similar to my own.
I had a friend, well more like a leech than a friend who was just really awkward socially. She always went 'ohh' before she said anything. She had a hard time fitting in.
Although every time I see I child I wonder if they're autistic. There was a kid that came around to my house today. He was kind hyperactive ADHD so I guess I was close.

I can spot certain kinds of aspies pretty reliably online by their writing style. You know the type - really long, detailed, unbelievably well thought out bullet pointed tomes of informative illumination chock full of ten dollar words that cover every single aspect of the issue in question except for possibly the actual contextual social significance meant by the original poster. Pretty much every one I've called on it has admitted to at least some suspicion of being an aspie, if not being outright diagnosed.

With 2 of my students, I wondered (to myself) if they had an ASD. I was later told by their parents that they did.

I've thought of the term aspiedar too, though I don't think I've used it when speaking with anyone. There are times when I've thought that maybe some other guys in my city maybe be aspies. There are 3 guys

guy 1: wears a winter coat in the middle of the summer

guy 2: walks all over the place, but will start running all of a sudden for a short distance then start walking again, or walks, but runs when he crosses the street.

guy 3: walks between two guys who are talking to each other.

The only time I had an "aspiedar" feeling was when I was... watching the Sherlock Holmes movie !
About the main character.

I think most of the time, not. I think most of the time seeing someone and thinking they might be aspie is simply seeing visible traits. I don't think that's akin to "gaydar", I don't think it merit's the term "aspiedar".

Me, I think I do pick up on some aspie-ish traits fairly quickly. But not attached with a label.

It definitely exists. I've asked other people if they were on the spectrum before and been right. Does anyone else ask people in public? It's a strange thing to ask someone out of nowhere.

Could be either an Aspie in denial of themselves, or trying to project an aura of normality.

Aspiedar is one word, by the way.

Just sayin'

There's also the village-idiot-and-proud type. They're gonna laugh at you anyway so you might as well have fun. I LOVE meeting other aspie's at parties.

unforunately i have yet to meet another aspie. how do you meet them btw?

I have NO idea WHAT you're talking about.

But, back to the point. I think once you KNOW about something, you are capable of spotting it in others. Once I learned about AS, I could immediately see my Dad was a classic case. I am 99% sure my boss has this, too. He's incapable of making eye contact, is kinda odd, is fascinated with history and he always wants an extreme amount of detailed info on something if I ask even a seemingly simple question. My brother I'm not sure about.

Similar with gluten intolerance. I see people all the time who I strongly suspect have it. I knew my brother had it. I knew my roommate had it before it was recently confirmed with a blood test. I suspect my other roommate has it, too. One of my friends would yell at me, "just because you can't eat gluten doesn't mean everyone else on the planet can't!" But, sorry, I know it when I see it.

That's interesting. How do you know? About the gluten Intolerance, I mean.

Not sure if you were serious. Well, I suppose it's actually by astute observations and not guessing.

I'm serious. Were you joking? What are the signs you pick up that indicate gluten intolerance?