"How are you doing in school?"

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I absolutely, positively hated this question as a young child.

Reason being: I was almost never doing well in school; and the times that I was doing well, it didn't really matter as much to me because it had nothing to do with any of my interests...which no one else seemed to care about asking me about.

They only seemed interested in asking me how I was doing in a system designed for conformity, and little else.


My cousins always did so much better than I did in school...of course my cousins aren't Autistic, or they were actually cheered on for the things they enjoyed, whereas I was of course not.

Anyone else go thru this?

For a long time, I thought it was normal to be teased and bullied every day. Silly me.

I agree with you on schools being conformity institutes. I never really knew how to respond to that question, though... Doing well in what way? In what specific subject?

I hate school myself, but luckily it's all over now, and after my summer holiday I'll be in college, where I only do the subjects I've chosen.

(I love how I can now talk about school in the past tense! )

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what also hurt a lot about it was that the bullies did seem a lot smarter than me, because of the standardized teaching.

It just seems the whole period was a giant psychological torture chamber really.

Everyone used to tell me "don't be so hard on yourself; you're actually very smart".

Well, I know that years later, when I'm pursuing the very interests everyone tried driving me away from.

Again, I didn't really care how I was doing in school, yet no one seemed to care about anything except how I was doing there...I wanted to talk about action figures and movies; the only real motivation I had for moving up in the grades-- to be fair--was getting the hell out of there so I could pursue my own life.

If there's one thing I love now, it's that at my job, they usually need us weekends, and I get weekdays off; I love getting weekdays off, cause I always had to be in school on weekdays, and it's this great feeling of freedom that I really enjoy. Plus, everyone else is usually working on weekdays, which means going anywhere during the week is a nice, peaceful experience.

I was motivated to do well in school by the promise of money and gadgets if I get good grades. It worked

Should be getting my iPad soon...

Doctor, how close to Indiana are you?

I'm now in Sandusky, Ohio my dear, as my information even says on the left size; so pretty damn close; feel free to check Yahoo/Google Maps on that one.

I grew up though in New Jersey, and that's where my schooling took place.

My school has a really nice special education program. I live near central Indianapolis. I would be expelled if not for it, so I am truly grateful.

So sorry to hear about your experience. I guess I shall not procreate near that area then.

well, my parents did offer me a reward if I got my grades up; so there was that.

It was funny: final semester my Dad had to pony up $50 cause I got a B average; even he admitted he didn't see it coming.

No, the thing with special education programs is that it's not really implied that you're that smart.

It's why for many years I really did think I was a moron; and even apologized to someone at college orientation for "wasting her time, cause I'm too stupid to be here"; I'm not making that up.

I really felt stupid for years after that; it wasn't until I learned more about being Autistic, and embraced all the advantages that life really turned around for me.

I mean...all of my cousins did really well in school, and all had great social lives; except for one of them, however he still had a nice social life and was good in sports.

Yeah, none of that applied to me. So for years, I referred to myself as the "Frankenstein Monster" of the family; I "got all the spare parts".

Only now do I know all the great benefits that I got from it...but I had to grow into my skin, embrace my inner Autistic, and follow my own heart to figure it all out.

And you get to wear that nice royal hat.

don't forget the robe, and hold the sceptre! Can't forget the sceptre and robe

Too late. Already did.

ah well, you're not the one wearing it anyway

Looks really uncomfortable. What does the K stand for? Karl? King?

actually very comfortable!

Well, both my business partner and I have a crown, robe, and sceptre.

The "K"s stand for "Ka-Razy" and "Kings"

Seriously, Google it; it'll all make sense once ya do

I will not google it. I bet it is a gang. You are a gang-banger.