Article on women with AS/HFA
Mark198423 wrote:
I am a little bitter. I get people questioning why I don't have something that I want more than anything else but cannot seem to get. You get annoyed because people ask you why you don't have something you don't want - my response would be a simple 'It's not what I want right now'. When I hear it now it's just another reminder, I really do not see your complaint.
I'm not horribly bitter, but I am sick of being expected to do something/be something that I am not. I had enough of that when people wanted me to be straight. I am a 30 yr. old female so now I'm expected to have my shiz together and be getting married or having a child. Not all women wanna do that.
I can see why you are angry as well. Like I said, I don't really know what guys go through. It just seems all the guys I know have never been accosted with the lines of questioning all the GIRLS I know have.
Kiseki wrote:
Mark198423 wrote:
I am a little bitter. I get people questioning why I don't have something that I want more than anything else but cannot seem to get. You get annoyed because people ask you why you don't have something you don't want - my response would be a simple 'It's not what I want right now'. When I hear it now it's just another reminder, I really do not see your complaint.
I'm not horribly bitter, but I am sick of being expected to do something/be something that I am not. I had enough of that when people wanted me to be straight. I am a 30 yr. old female so now I'm expected to have my shiz together and be getting married or having a child. Not all women wanna do that.
I can see why you are angry as well. Like I said, I don't really know what guys go through. It just seems all the guys I know have never been accosted with the lines of questioning all the GIRLS I know have.
Maybe girls only talk to girls about this kind of thing and vice-versa - I don't know. I think we're both talking about unknown perspectives but independently from the vs. issue, can you not just say that you don't want it when asked? I can't go into detail in the conversation as it just opens emotional wounds and I'm simply not comfortable discussing my flaws!
Mark198423 wrote:
Kiseki wrote:
Mark198423 wrote:
Maybe girls only talk to girls about this kind of thing and vice-versa - I don't know. I think we're both talking about unknown perspectives but independently from the vs. issue, can you not just say that you don't want it when asked? I can't go into detail in the conversation as it just opens emotional wounds and I'm simply not comfortable discussing my flaws!
I think you are right. I usually go off on an angry tirade because, when I say I don't want that, the people always ask "Why?"
As for you it sounds like you have deeper issues you might need to discuss with someone.
Kiseki wrote:
Mark198423 wrote:
Kiseki wrote:
Mark198423 wrote:
Maybe girls only talk to girls about this kind of thing and vice-versa - I don't know. I think we're both talking about unknown perspectives but independently from the vs. issue, can you not just say that you don't want it when asked? I can't go into detail in the conversation as it just opens emotional wounds and I'm simply not comfortable discussing my flaws!
I think you are right. I usually go off on an angry tirade because, when I say I don't want that, the people always ask "Why?"
As for you it sounds like you have deeper issues you might need to discuss with someone.
I suppose I didn't think of that response from them really. OK both sexes have it bad - we're all f****d!!
That's so depressing
Try a lot of verbal reassurances. Can you say "I see, yeah, I get what you're saying. Yeah, I know how you feel" and such things? Can you say "so if I understand this, you're saying [whatever they just said, but phrased differently]?" (That one especially is helpful to me.)
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
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DandelionFireworks wrote:
Try a lot of verbal reassurances. Can you say "I see, yeah, I get what you're saying. Yeah, I know how you feel" and such things? Can you say "so if I understand this, you're saying [whatever they just said, but phrased differently]?" (That one especially is helpful to me.)
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
I am American, but live in Japan now. I got the same line of questioning in both countries.
Kiseki wrote:
DandelionFireworks wrote:
Try a lot of verbal reassurances. Can you say "I see, yeah, I get what you're saying. Yeah, I know how you feel" and such things? Can you say "so if I understand this, you're saying [whatever they just said, but phrased differently]?" (That one especially is helpful to me.)
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
I am American, but live in Japan now. I got the same line of questioning in both countries.
Wow! I'm Eglish but considering going to Japan! How have you found it as an aspie Kiseki?
Mark198423 wrote:
Kiseki wrote:
DandelionFireworks wrote:
Try a lot of verbal reassurances. Can you say "I see, yeah, I get what you're saying. Yeah, I know how you feel" and such things? Can you say "so if I understand this, you're saying [whatever they just said, but phrased differently]?" (That one especially is helpful to me.)
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
Also, you two, are you talking about the same culture?
I am American, but live in Japan now. I got the same line of questioning in both countries.
Wow! I'm Eglish but considering going to Japan! How have you found it as an aspie Kiseki?
I'm not sure I am an Aspie, just have most of the traits. I love living in JP for reasons that I posted here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt130466.html
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