CARETAKER WITH ASPERGERS

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Is it safe to have someone with Aspergers Syndrome to take care of your child when he won't admit he has this and has never sought help?

Last edited by IvanaScream on 20 Oct 2010, 8:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

I don't know, but I watch my nephew when his parents are in a pinch. It's usually just for 10 hrs at the most. He's about 2.5 years old so I hope I don't do weirdo things to confuse him.

I don't see why it wouldn't be safe.

Why are you asking? Asperger's is a complex thing to assess in an adult and the signs can be subtle. You can't be sure whether he has Asperger's or if whatever symptoms you are seeing is due to something else until he gets an official diagnosis. Nonetheless, I know of cases where a parent with Asperger's has done just fine. Maybe it would help if you explained what you're concerned about.

That's not a reason to worry. Of course it's safe.

BUT an Aspie is no less likely than an NT to be dangerous. Do the same background checks you would for an NT. Presumably, you'll be really careful anyway, right? You don't want somebody you don't know caring for your child.

So if you've satisfied yourself that this is the only worry, then you can breathe easy. No danger.

Yes, you need to check to make sure this is a trustworthy person. AS doesn't have much to do with that. If they can take care of kids, and if they're generally the kind of person you can depend on, then they're just as good as a non-Aspie.

Whether they've gotten treatment tends to depend more on whether or not they ran into major AS-related problems; for example, I'm getting counseling because my AS makes it harder for me to plan and complete my schoolwork, and I need to learn how to organize better and recognize when an approach isn't working so that I can change it. If I didn't have that problem I might be happily undiagnosed and going about my introverted way, because my social dysfunction has never been a source of particular distress to me. I get most of the socialization I need with people who are eccentric enough not to care that I'm odd, too.

This is so very much a troll post.

With the way Autism Speaks and the Cassandra crew have been spreading misinformation lately, you can't really tell if it is or not. And answering the question sensibly doesn't cost me any more than a minute.

what a strange question. I watch my children every single day and seldom have any breaks. I guess it's safe I always wonder if it is safe for NTs to watch my children one has Autism and one is probably an Aspie. Nobody loves or understands them like I do...and I get them better than most. NT's are unpredictable, have unexplained emotional problems, and are utterly unobservant to things which cause massive problems. I think it's safer to have them with me then NT daddy who does not change, feed or wash them. I sit and read to them, take them out to different places, take them to church and make all meals. I am very detail oriented about making sure that they are well cared for. I'm also the more affectionate parent and my kids come running to me when they are hurt or upset.

Of course not. Don't you know that the number one hobby amongst people with AS is mass murder of children?

Won't admit? As in he's diagnosed and doesn't accept it. or you think he has it and he won't accept that?

As far as help, there isn't any specific adult help for ASC's. It can be important information in treating depression or other things, though. It's not like being a kleptomaniac, or a "peeping tom," or something, where some sort of treatment is automatically indicated.

I'd say, vet the person as you would anybody for the job.

I agree, and once again I've been put in the paradoxical position of being compelled to post that I refuse to post.

It doesn't sound like a troll to me. It sounds like a good parent who's heard some incorrect information and is fact-checking.

Incidentally, Who_Am_I is incorrect. Or maybe being sarcastic or lying. One of those.

I kind of feel offended someone has to ask this. Its like asking if my kid would be safe if a black person would watch them. I have watched infants, toddlers, and older children. I know how to stop bleeding, I know the Heimlich manuever, and know to call an ambulance if the child is seriously hurt or sick. He most likely has a higher IQ than you. If he has not seen a specialist how do you know its even Aspergers?

Last edited by Todesking on 22 Oct 2010, 1:31 am, edited 1 time in total.

I should have known the motivations of the OP.

The sarcasm wasn't obvious?