How common is avoidance amongst aspies/autistics?

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A character trait of mine, for as long as I can remember, has been avoidance of people and social situations. Sometimes I'm not even sure why I feel this need to isolate myself from people, it's just so in grown in me that it's just a natural trigger reaction of mine. Anyone else find the same in yourself?

I'm wondering if it's more than just anxiety and social phobia. Do autistic's have a tendency to run away (for lack of a better term) from social situations and people in general? Your responses will be appreciated...

I do it. Santa Claus certainly does it. I'm just a lot happier when I'm hanging out by myself. Nobody to act normal for, nobody to impress, nobody to engage in pointless conversation.

I am guilty of avoiding people...... as much as I can get away with it anyway..

I get nervous in a room with more than 3 people. If I have to attend a family gathering or other social function with a dozen or more people, I get in a sour mood days in advance and shut down and endure it when I have to. I don't talk to anyone and engage as little as possible.

I've always been alone in a crowd.

I'm pretty avoidant.

One social skill I've added is giving a person space. A person needs space, I can go ahead and give him or her space, without that intervening step of asking if the person 'should' need space.

And presumably, the same applies to myself, when I need space myself.

Another skill I'm working on is light-touching social events and social interactions and ping-ponging back and forth. A person invests slightly, I can invest slightly. He or she invests a medium amount, I can invest a medium. And not as an obligation, merely as a possibility. And a remedy to me downloading this tremendous amount of information as a conversation 'starter'! (Wow, yeah, I really used to do that. kind of like I was auditioning and I had to do something extra to be accepted. I should be accepted merely because I'm a human being. And if the other person doesn't, he or she has a problem. Or is preoccupied or whatever. He or she needs space, I can give space, but that is not a conversation)

I do this.

I avoid social functions. But no longer out of any particular anxiety they create. I don't care enough anymore about what people think of me to get too anxious. I do get agitated because of the noise and such. But that's a sensory thing.

I don't mind some social situations, as long as I'm not expected to interact with a lot of people (especially not a lot of people at once), but sometimes I find it very difficult to follow through on going to social occasions.

Since I avoid people who are in the same house as I am most of the time, I think yes, I do.

My limit is about 6 known and good people. Even then I will hide in a corner.

Too much to process, too few rewards.

I always need to have my alone time. I can stay in small social groups for a short amount of time like a few hours. When Im in HUGE gatherings I completely shutdown... I useraly have a camera with me so I focus on that. It helps me cope with it.

I did this a lot as a kid when we go to peoples houses to visit or for parties. I preferred to play alone. I was never interested in joining other kids. I rarely hung out with other kids and I can remember watching kids playing Super Mario World on the Super Nintendo at one of my dad's friend's houses and Battletoads/Double Dragon. I think that is the only thing I did with other kids.

I can be around people but I do my own thing. I ignore people around me but of course I don't ignore them if they talk to me. Then I feel so bad when I don't want to talk to anyone but I am forced to respond or else I am being rude. I don't tell them to leave me alone. But luckily they don't keep trying to talk to me, sometimes I wonder if they pick up on it or they are just decided to talk to other people.

I'm pretty sure that avoidance, regardless of the reason or motivation, comes with the territory.

I avoid social gatherings myself, I think maybe because they don't interest me. I can act NT and socialize but I would rather not, because I usually have how I want to spend my time planned out for the day and heavy socialization isn't on my agenda. If it's brief, I have no problems with it like saying hello and a few words about this or that to my neighbors and the people who work at the stores/shops I visit frequently.

I avoid social situations as much as possible, and retreat to the solitude of my fortress to slumber and feed