How did you or your aspie child survive high school

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I actually really liked high school. I got involved and had a lot of friends.

I didn't. Dropped out. Yeah.

ask for an IEP or 504 plan if you haven't already. they should work with you to make modifications as needed to help your son cope better by doing things like excusing him from very crowded assemblies, removing the requirement of timed tests or allowing him to take a "time out" if he needs time to process a stressfull event.

you will have to explain to some teachers and administrators about your child's condition, that he does not learn things like typical children/is delayed in certain areas and that certain punishments are simply not effective. if you are nice about it and position it as trying to help them manage your disabled child, they are usually thankful for the advice.

resources on the other hand aren't as hard to come by, especially with all the recent budget cuts. For sure call your local regional center to see what services he can qualify for. the school however will tell you it's the least restrictive environment to keep him in a mainstream setting, even if they are not equipped to meet his needs for example if he needs on site therapist or trained resource specialist to help him through a meltdown. you can ask the IEP team to present an alternative placement, but you may have to research other alternatives such as charter schools or virtual academy until he can learn the skills he needs to mainstream successfully.

don't stop advocating for your son even though it is frustrating because he can't do it for himself yet. ask everyone you speak to until you find the answers. and make sure your child knows it's not his fault. look into a peer support group for him so that he can meet others with similar problems and realize he isn't alone.

good luck

i was homeschooled.

Guess what, my mom was the principal. Yeah.

I stopped going. I got my diploma at community college.

I survived by trying to be as invisible as possible. It didn't always work but I was bullied less than I was in primary school.

I've never kept in touch with anyone from school and have no idea how any of them are doing. I've never attended any school reunions and I have no intention of doing so either.

i think i lucked out i a way, i was never able to survive in public school, i had nothing but bad memories in public schools.

in the 3rd grade i think i got distracted while going back to the class room, and lost track of the line i followed. and i couldn't remember what room i was in, so i was stuck outside, no one came to get me. i young and scared and i was out there till my mom came to pick me up.

after that was either home-schooled or put in a private school. and when i graduated i was happy that i did.

but until i got into a private school, school was a nightmare. when we came here the new school we found was almost the same as the one in arizona, so i managed to adapt. took a little while though, one of the older girls in the class who would dye her hair a different color every week took me under her wing and did what she could to help me adapt. she was really nice and could tell i was scared she was an artist and drew me pictures to help me feel welcome.

eventually i made friends and was able to fit in a bit better. my only nit-pick about the school was they were against water gun fights which we had every year in arizona, they were alot of fun and helped us get along better.

i also had bought a supersoaker after my first one broke and i never got to use it, so it was like the 20 or 30 dollars went right down the drain.

short response :

I didn't survive. I left repeatedly and only made it through by missing most of it.

That is one of those questions what I'm going to be looking for the answer for the rest of my life. I really do not know how I survived high school, but I did somehow. If I just about passed 7 GCSEs, I must have coped somehow.

I kept my head down low, observed the social interactions of others (with no intention or interest in joining in, however), and focused on the actual work rather than the social scene. I also made sure to f**k over anyone who messed with me so that they didn't try it again.

I left school at 16 and went to post-secondary as soon as I qualified as a "mature student".

I don't know if I am aspie but I got through school by sleeping through almost every class. And missed so many days I wasn't supposed to graduate, but they let me graduate anyway.

I eventually left school at 16. I passed the GED at the age of 17 six months before the rest of the class graduated. My scores were very high. I immediately entered college. My GPA in college was in the honors range. It might have been easier in terms of prerequisites to finish high school, but I don't know that I would have survived it. Literally. My eldest three kids all followed about the same path.

Today there are options like distance learning or other independent study.

I quit. You don't have to follow class to take exams here, all I had to do was register as homeschooled.

I kept breathing. And I remembered that it would end.

If you suffer enough you'll soon learn that misery won't kill you directly.