I don't understand...

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The way people think.

What don't you understand about them?

I don't understand why people change, a lot of my friends change, not for the worse but they change in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable, for example they said they don't like clubs or drinking alcohol but now most of my friends do that and I get left behind

I have friends that say they are shy but when it comes down to it their not at least not in my definition, but I suppose this is where I am more than just shy but I always consider that if someone says they are shy they will be like me but that is untrue.

I don't understand how people are spontaneous, there are too many variables how do people just decide to go out in 30 min ? I need about 3 days notice

I don't understand how they don't get anxious when it comes to going out and doing things. I find a lot of things stressful.

this is only in relation to people I know by the way I am sure there are people out there that have similar issues

I cannot fathom why they get such a vicarious thrill out of watching other people play a game - whether it's a bunch of sweaty neanderthals beating the snot out of each other over a leather testicle, tossing a pumpkin into a basket of string, or a bunch of rich guys tapping a bird egg into a hole in the ground. Really, how is sitting on your duff just observing that enjoyable?

I don't understand why some people are nice to your face and then say uncomplimentary things about you to others when you aren't there.

Not saying what they mean, not meaning with they say.

everything revolves around self-preservation and by extension prevervation of the group one belongs to. but the ramifications of this are mind-blowing at times.

I dont understand why its such a problem if people argue or show they are angry. You always have to be so tactful even when people have done something really mean and nasty. I dont understand why the status quo has to be kept. I would rather just behave as if they have done something awful and let them have it.

dont understand people at all, understand nothing of them,unable to relate to them, its like being a different species.

I don't understand people either. Then again, most humans have a difficult time understanding other human beings as well. Though I would prefer it if people could actually talk without hiding facts from each other.

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I wonder what would happen if suddenly everybody's innermost thoughts were transparent?

i too have difficulty with most of what has been said even with my interest in psychology sociology and all things to do with human behavior i still find some things strange that normal people do

I don't understand small talk. I don't get how someone can ask, "How are you?" without it being a question. I don't get the the concept of talking just to talk. If I'm going to talk to someone and relate to them, I want to actually relate.

Echoing a previous comment: say what you mean, and mean what you say.

I don't comprehend why we say "understand". I under stand a roof, or a tree, or the sun, but not people.
And I don't understand small talk either.

I don't understand why people care or worry about or even notice in the first place, things I do that have absolutely nothing to do with them. For instance, what difference does it make to anyone else in the world that I choose not to eat something I don't like?? Does it somehow "do" something to them because I simply decide not to eat it????

I can understand that the person who cooked the food may be offended if I don't eat it and compliment them on it. I don't see the need for people to take personal offense to someone else for having different tastes, but I can understand why they do. I can understand feeling frustrated that you wasted your time cooking for someone who won't eat the food, or wasted money on the food. I can also understand the frustration of not being able to go to the restaurant you want to go to because the picky eater won't find anything to eat there. I understand it when people take note of things that affect them personally.

But what I do NOT understand is that even in a completely neutral situation, when it has no effect on other people whatsoever - when they did not cook the food, or pay for it, or choose the restaurant or the menu, and we are all choosing from the same buffet - they STILL have to take note and comment on what I eat. It's not like I have anything strange or unusual on my plate, it's the SAME food they are eating, just a more limited selection. Do they think I find it cute to be compared with someone's 12 year old child because I don't eat vegetables? I am not dieting, and I don't see why anyone would think so when I tend to pick the most rich, fatty foods over the ones that are generally considered to be more healthy, and I am absolutely not trying to compete with other women on who can eat the least amount of food. I don't even notice what other people are eating and I don't care, and even if I did care, I certainly wouldn't expect anyone else to explain their eating habits to me. So why, why, WHY do they ask me about my eating habits? and to do so while I'm putting the food IN my mouth? Do they really, really want to hear about how I gag on things that don't taste good, or my reflux problems, or my sensitive gut at the dinner table? Or do they want to hear about how I didn't choose the things they are eating, because I find those foods to be repulsive and disgusting, while they are eating those foods?

What I don't understand is after all the times I explain about not being able to cope well with change people still don't remember it when they suddenly ask me out, or become angry with me when I have the same reaction over sudden change - either avoidant or verbally resistant.

Something else is when people finally get that you might need help when you tell them how anxious you are about something yet they offer to help you with something you are capable of doing on your own and didn't ask for them to help you anyway. And when you gently turn their offer of help down they take it as though I just said 'get the f*** out of my life, I don't need you. Really it was, 'I should be able to do it on my own.'