Hi there, I was recently diagnosed with autism, im 26, and my ex fiance, i realized as soon as i was diagnosed ALSO has this exactly.
Ive seen her meltdown hundreds of times, i never thought anything of it bc i always meltdown and i just thought i was crazy. Anyway, now i can see we were both having meltdowns She stims all the time, and ive witnessed people be SO cruel to her bc of her "differences". I always thought they were just as*holes and never thought she was any different, I felt like she was actually more normal than anyone else i knew. haha.
She has never been diagnosed with it, and i know how much finding out relieved so much of my pain and confusion.
We do not speak, i am torn bc i know telling her will really really help her but I dont want to be the one to inform her b/c we've both moved on. If there were a way to tell her anonymously, like having amazon send her a book on Aspergirls or something, do you think i should?
Its one of those fine lines b/w doing what is appropriate (IE live and let live) and doing what you feel compelled is the right thing....
also the fact that i dont exactly comprehend social norms, well im confused as to what to do.