baby refuses to settle for aspie father...help!
my partner is a high functioning diagnosed aspie. we have a 6 1/2 week old daughter. She would go to him and settle just fine up until the three week mark. now however she screams if he holds her without me in the room, is noticibly upset when he enters an area of about 3 metres around her or if he attempts to make eye contact with her. (he has good eye contact normally)i can pass her to him asleep and witin a minute she will wake up. she will occasionally let him hold her but if he makes eye contact she cracks it.
we have gone to doctors and the health nurse even asked a midwife but they all hgad know idea. even saying they had never seen anything like it before.
we think it may have something to do with his aspergers. specifically his body language/ cues.
if anyone has experienced this or similiar or has any ideas please. he is getting really upset by this.
Could it be separation anxiety? Or maybe she is mamma's girl. My baby has had stages where he was daddy's boy and then mamma's boy but he never acted like your daughter. But when I returned to work, he was bad for his dad because he keep screaming and screaming and refuse the bottle and be starving by the time I got home. But now it's better and he does good for him.
It's likely to be one of two things;
- Separation Anxiety
- Sensory Issues
Separation Anxiety
You need to consider leaving her alone with her father more often. Perhaps leave them alone in the house both sitting on the floor. Eventually she'll probably come to him. Certainly if you keep "rescuing" her, you're only increasing the anxiety. If you're breast feeding, consider expressing and allowing him to bottle feed. Some babies react to the absence of the smell of milk.
Sensory Issues
It could also be sensory related. If you haven't already, please have a look at Chynna T Laird's books. In particular, "Not just Spirited" talks about her sensory daughter's issues with her husband. I did a book review on it here.
Consider how your husband may seem different to you. Does he wear aftershave? The aftershave smell could be a factor?
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