Out of the shell, pushed back in

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Anyone ever come out of their shell, talk to people, try to have friends only to find yourselves disappointed, hurt and saying nevermind?

Yeah, that may happen for years before you connect with anyone.

No, as I am generally not of that mentality.

Yeah to some extent, theres been a lot of let down throughout the years. In my years in college, during the 1st 2 yrs I tried very hard to make friends and I did but I had a lot of problems. So Jr yr I went back into my shell, i did make a few friends but I hid myself, there was less problems that yr, I was very reserved but I was so unhappy that year. I couldnt express myself so my Sr yr I came out of my shell again and caused a ton of problems then again but in the end it was worth it because I was actually being myself and I was a ton happier despite all the drama that happened that year.

Once I lost one friend with whom we had been friends for years. It had hurt. Does this count?

Usually, I make a friendship by little steps, so it's rare that I'm hurt or disappointed. Also, I don't expect much from the majority of people. I got used to feel not fitting in friendships, so I've put up with it.

Over and over again

You know, back in the dark ages before diagnosis I worked enthusiastically at personal development, communication, leadership training for a couple of decades. Without noticeable effect.

Some people are just hard to convince, I suppose.

Not me. I never give up.

I think I do this based on my energy level. Even when I have a great social life, I need to have uninterrupted time by myself. Right now, I find myself in a place where I don't have a lot of opportunities to do things I enjoy in a social setting, and in a distrustful and irritable mood. If I see an opportunity that looks promising, I'll try to overcome my mood long enough to go out and I'll give my mood and attitude a chance to improve through positive social contacts.

All my friends are online ones.

Yup - I've been there over and over and finally just gave up over a decade ago.

It sure seems that way to me.

Yes, it was called college.

Hell yeah. You try and be brave and talk to people even though you feel awkward and then something ruins it and you look like an idiot and wish you never bothered.

That subject title pretty much sums up what I'm currently going through. The more I talk to people the more I make them angry. It's not worth trying anymore.

Yes I have! I see people joining in conversations all the time, then when I tried to once, I got my head bitten off, so I didn't do it again. I know people on WP make excuses for NTs, like keep saying, ''you probably done it at the wrong time'' or ''it was probably the wrong conversation'' - and it's annoying because I knew that this conversation was not the ''wrong'' one to join in at the ''wrong'' time - even other NTs said that, so the person who bit my head off when I joined in was just being a bit nasty. I just wish people would treat me the same as they treat everyone else. Now I'm scared to be open and join in conversations - but if I don't, I get people looking up and saying, ''you're quiet.'' I can't win!