syrella wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
I do not know what loneliness feels like. I am actually becoming increasingly curious.
I think you are probably better off not knowing. If you've been sad before, it's like that, only in connection with other people. Instead of wanting to be left alone, for example, sometimes I want to be around other people.
It tends to cause more problems than it solves, but it can be a motivating force in terms of socializing. A lonely person is more likely to seek out other people. But they are also more likely to behave in a desperate manner.
I sometimes wish I didn't feel loneliness. Most of the time I don't, but sometimes I do. It's never very fun.
There are times when I want to talk to someone else about a particular topic, and it's frustrating if I can't find anyone to discuss the topic. One of the people I go to with some of those thoughts is extremely variable as to response times, but then so am I.
And when I've had crushes on some people, I did miss them when they weren't around. But I didn't want to be around people in general so much as a specific person. And I didn't really want a relationship, although I was sure I was
supposed to want a relationship.
This may be why I usually only seek people out when I have a specific need.