My partner thinks it is 100% certain I have Aspergers

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I finally plucked up the courage to say to my partner of nine years standing: "There is a long description of Asperger's syndrome on Wikipedia. Please read it."

She read the German version, which is a lot longer than the English language one. She is 50 years old and has a small qualification in psychological counselling.


Later we had the following conversation:


She: I have always known.

Me: From the very beginning?

She: From almost the very beginning.

Me; I'm really relieved you think so, too. I was afraid you'd say I was just imagining it.

She: You're not imagining. It's absolutely clear. What doubt could there be? I've always known it but didn't want to say it.

Me: Is there any possibilty at all that it's not true, that I've got it wrong?

She: No.

Me: None whatsoever?

She: None whatsoever.


I feel so relieved to be taken seriously about Asperger's.

However I suppose it's not an official diagnosis.

I dread going through the hoops of psychological testing to get a diagnosis, but I suppose the label belongs to the medical establishment, so I have to put myself through the process.

hahaha!

I had this conversation with an ex-girlfriend.

Me: "I found out I have aspergers."

Her: "duh, I've been telling people you have aspergers for years."

Me: "why didn't you tell me?"

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Anyway, do you need an official diagnosis for anything in particular? It sounds like you have been recieving personal counseling for quite some time, even if it was in secret.

With that level of acceptance from your partner, Why do you feel like you need the "official" label?
What will having the label do you for? What do you hope to gain from it?

There is no need to go through the hoops of testing to get diagnosis if you don't want to, and won't gain anything from it.

Ha! Awesome.

A third opinion from a professional can be valuable for your future peace of mind, if you have access.

I'm very glad that your significant-other is okay with your having AS. I think maybe she must have been afraid for a while that she would make you feel bad if she told you. I guess your best bet is to explain to her that it is not a shameful thing to have AS, that you were born that way and it's okay for her to talk about it. Now that you both know, there's more information that the two of you have about each other--she knows you're Aspie, you know she's NT, and that means that you have a culture gap to jump. It looks like you've been jumping it just fine, but now you know it's there.

From what you've written, I am not surprised. It sounds like she accepts you, too. It really helps to have that validation, too.

What would you want from an official diagnosis?

Nothing, really.