Aversion to Good-Looking People

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Do any of you feel any aversion to attractive people? Not simply lack of attraction, but outright aversion. The gender doesn't matter here, as the question is not about romantic attraction, but feelings/thoughts in general. By aversion, I mean suspiciousness, distrust, or discomfort in their presence. For me, that's a big yes, and for some reason, I'm more tense around good-looking girls than good-looking guys, even though I'm a straight male. The aversion happens in the following situations.
I'm far more suspicious of an attractive stranger than an average-looking one. When I need directions or the time of day, I always ask someone plain-looking, male or female.
I'm very leery of shopping in a store that has a large number of good-looking salespeople.
I refuse to sign up for a membership at any place that has a large number of good-looking people, employees or customers, male or female.
I can't stand sitting near a crowd of "hot" people on buses and trains.
I almost never go to dance clubs because of this issue.
I even decided not to see a particular escort, because she looked too good in the photos.

Does anyone else feel aversion to attractive people? Vote, and post additional comments if you wish.

I tend to stay away from them if possible.

I voted "don't know" because I have face blindness... I tend to see a person's emotions in their face but not the unique physical structures, although as I get to know that person I start to "see" their face more.

I feel an aversion to most people, IRL.

Oh, you meant good-looking people *in bunches* - yes I avoid that too. Sorry, I thought you meant individually so I voted "I don't know."

Ah yes, the "beautiful people" - the ones who go out to see and be seen. Ick.

This sounds crazy to me, surely we, can be open minded enough to realise looks have NOTHING to do with how someone is?

Yes surely a lot of attractive people are snobby, but surely a lot are NOT, surely even some aspies are "attractive"

By the way, what do you define as attractive?

Cause my past few girlfriends said I was attractive, but in my eyes I'm a horrible beast.

What I mean is, culture tells you what type of people are attractive, some of them might be gross, some might be wonderful inside, you gotta find out for yourself if you feel like it..

To me I prefer the rarer kinds of beauty, so if I see someone who attracts me completely, I'm definately not going to avoid them! In fact I prefer not to avoid anyone, keeping an open mind in reference to looks helps me believe that many can keep an open mind to the way I am inside.

I feel very uneasy, when I walk past good looking people of either Gender. I feel more at ease around average people. I feel that the good looking people tend to judge books by their covers and I don't like to be judged in that way. I just ignore the good looking people and I put myself on Autopilot, just so I can get my daily buisness done, without any troubles. I'd rather look at a Routemaster, than a good looking person, or a whole cilque of good looking people, in that matter.

When you see a large group of hot people, you can't help but wonder why they've clustered together. Have they excluded less attractive people?

According to my good looking sister, some less attractive girls tend to dismiss attractive girls as brainless bimbos before actually getting to know them - so infact it could be the good looking people who themselves have been excluded, in some cases.

I have to go with Scintillate's (sp?) op here. It's a reverse discrimination thing. Akin to racism, really. Classical beauty is arbitrary, a combination of genes. You're really assuming a lot when you ascribe so many particular traits to people that look a certain way. Not all good looking people spend a lot of time and energy grooming or admiring themselves.
I remember Brooke Shields back in the day, when she was in college or even before, complaining about being publically shunned. People walked around her and looked at her funny. She might as well been ugly because she was treated as "other" for her looks and the assumptions that went with them (plus her fame).

Too right, especially cause what matters most to me is what drives or inspires a person..

If you avoid a certain type of people, or those that look a certain way, it gives you no right to expect people to understand your differences..

That sounded mean it wasn't meant to be.

I often have a different standard for what is attractive than most people, and sometimes I find a certain "type" of person to be aversive, even though others find them attractive. Here's an example:
http://photos.yafro.com/pics3/i/2004121 ... 0_full.jpg
Most girls find this type of guy to be "hot." He's the second-highest rated guy on HotorNot.com I think he's pretty gross. You couldn't pay me to have sex with that guy.

If I personally find someone to be attractive though, I don't have any aversion to them. As a matter of fact, I tend to stare too much. My husband laughs when I get caught, which is often.

i put that i dont know because i talk to people that i think are attractive and well girls that people say are really good looking ill talk to and all but for some reason im just not that attracted to them i guess its my "don't follow the crowd" mentality that comes into play with not being attracted to the best looking girls in the group and well i never feel any attraction until after i talk to someone maybe its their attitude im attracted to?

I find society's idea of attractiveness somewhat artificial. I'd much rather aproach someone who looks "real".

Yes, I like real looking people too. It's not so much attractive people I find off-putting, as 'plastic' people. The ones who've had surgery to look better and have a kind of stretched look to their faces. The ones you see on adverts. Very weird.

Not really. I just see people for how they act. If they say hi to me and don't verbally or physically attack me, they're ok. If they give me the finger and write obsenities on notes to me, I stay away from them.

Yes, I am prejudiced against attractive people.


Even though I am one.



Someone please analyze me.