So angry I lose the ability to speak coherently...

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Does this happen to anyone? When I am Angry or in an argument or even a disagreement I lose the ability to speak words don't come to me and I can't even get my message across, it's often to a point where I don't want to avoid and give up completely, it frustrates me to no end, is this associated with my Aspergers?

The more strongly I feel about something, the less able I become to verbalize about it. It's like my brain gets too stimulated and words disappear.

I tend to go mute and give up

I have a hard time with speech when I am emotionally overwhelmed or scared. If I am angry I can be very eloquent and I can use colorful language too which is not always nice but I tend to have difficulty getting words out when I am under stress more related to anxiety and fear.

I'm very similar in this regard. I also have a hard time responding when something catches me off guard. Especially, when it's a random a$$hole comment. I'm like a deer caught in headlights. I usually spend the day being pissed off about it and running through my head what I should have said.

Once in a blue moon I get the chance to use what I thought of, but they usually just catch me off guard again.

I just don't understand how regular people always have to do this. Not only that but have seemingly unending s**t to say, responses, and rebuttals. It takes a lot of mental work and preparation to be an a$$hole.

Glad I'm not the only one then, boy it is frustrating... I've tried for years to overcome it but I suppose I can't beat the way my brain is wired.

I think this is how I am, too.

If something is important to me or something makes me angry, then I often feel overwhelmed by emotion and cannot speak. If I tried to speak in that state, I would not be able to say what I want to say and my voice would be very shaky from nervousness, which could be falsely interpreted as kind of crying. So I have no choice but to shut up. Otherwise things could get even worse.

I am usually a nervous person and even when there is no reason to be nervous, the sheer presence of other people can make me nervous and my voice can get shaky, which is very embarrassing. So when I'm angry, that's far worse.

When I'm very angry I often lose the ability to speak coherently too. I'll say wrong words, or skip parts of the word, and sometimes even end up just end up making sounds.
When I'm startled or have to react quickly, my brain tends to freeze, and I can't get anything out beyond "nnngh!"Very helpful

i'm sure glad i'm not the only one.

I go through this as well, but not as much as I did just a few short years ago.

I'm very similar too. When I'm very angry my brain just shuts down and It's very hard to collect my thoughts and communicate them.

I don't think I've EVER been in a heated argument to the point that I'm yelling because my brain shuts down before it gets to that point.

When I've seen people having a serious argument, I could never understand how they could be going on and on like that.

This doesn't just happen to me in emotional situations. Other things steal your spoons too. There are days when I just can't speak, or when it takes far more spoons out of me to speak than for an NT person. That's why I have the notebook, and eventually need to get some sort of tablet with a text to speech program. Fortunately I don't have to talk much at work.

I have this too. It's like My brain is trying to make my mouth blurt out something in frustration, the words I'm trying to enunciate get distorted when they reach my mouth. I have been meaning to try to make myself calm and slow down my thoughts as I speak them to see if that will help.

I can describe two situations.

When I get excited and happy I start to trip over my words, stutter and generaly put my words in random order. In other words, I'm thinking way faster than my mouth can keep up.

Then on the rare occasion when i realy get angry, my mind goes blank and I'm in what you might call "a blind rage". It is to be taken litteraly.