Should I do this? Yes or No and why, please.

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I've been trying to find my mom an assisted living or independent living facility and finally found one near us. I talked to the head of the place and, after asking me some questions about myself (about income, etc. and I told him I'm on SSI for mental disabilities), he says that I would also be a good candidate for living there, myself. The only thing is, it's a retirement community and most of the people there are in their 70's and 80's but there are some in their 50's and 60's and a few in their 40's. I would be the youngest person there, since it's for old people, mainly.

But they'll let us bring our cats, which is a big plus, and they take section 8 (government program that helps low income people pay rent) which is another big plus.

So, should I do it? Should I move into a retirement community? A big part of me wants to because I feel it will be a step in the right direction on becoming independent.It will be like a stepping stone. But another part of me thinks I shouldn't even consider it because I should just take the leap and get my own actual apartment right now. I'll have my own apartment at the retirement community and be close to my mom, too, so I can still see her and make sure she's okay. So a big part of me is leaning toward that. But I'm not sure.

So what do you guys think I should do? Should I just keep looking for an actual apartment in an apartment building or move into the retirement community my mom may be staying in for now?

Personally I would like to live in a retirement community because I find younger people so NOISY and annoying! We don't have that option in the UK. Obviously it's up to you, but I probably would go for something like that. I live in supported living with 6 other people and it's horrible. I would love to be able to live by myself! Being with your Mum would be a bonus as well although my Mum would rather live with anyone rather than me!

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I'm with Jellybean, I've been dreaming about living in a retirement community because the elderly are quieter and usually more mature. Assuming you have a good relationship with your mom and want to nurture it, I think it would be best for the two of you to stick close together. You could probably also save money by living there.

I don't know exactly what you mean by "independent," but a lot of what is considered "independence" in industrialized societies really means "lonely, bored, vulnerable, and spending/working/consuming more than necessary." If you're talking about taking care of your personal needs, that's an important and totally legitimate way to be independent. I just get worried that some people end up working against their best interests by trying to fit the societal ideal of personal independence.

Listen. The choice really is yours, and yours alone. personally I wouldnt want to live in a place like that because I'm shure they have outrageous rules there. reminds me too much of a group home, yuk!

Living as independelty as possible is really the best option, unless you cant for some reason. so much better man