Wandering_Stranger wrote:
Please don't assume that because they have Aspergers, they have certain issues. We're not all the same. If the person allows you, ask what problems they have. For example, do they need you to say "at 12pm, we're going to have lunch. At 1pm, we're going shopping" and so on.
If they do have a meltdown, (which can be due to things like hypersensitivity) just leave them. But ensure they're safe.
yes. this is good advice. unless you are using the dsm, you should stay away from generalizations. a quick example of this is how one responder to your post stated that metaphors would be wasted on us. i dont undertand this. they may not be the most effective tool, but to state this as such a clear fact makes us seem like we are way out in left field and could freak out the OP. when i hear 'thats the way the cookie crumbles,' i dont suggest a different brand of cookie.
and please understand that evidence based practices have been largely normed to NTs. my therapist has worked on processing my close relationship with my best friend by suggesting that i have separation anxiety, which is rooted in my attachment disorder stemming from a past truama that i cannot recall and that i am codependant in regards to her addiction (cigarettes). okay...or how about maybe i dont understand how to behaviorally show my interest and regard for her in the most socially functional way. so maybe we should work on some skill building huh? rather than exposure therapy for gods sake. can you believe he suggested getting to know a lot of other people?? 'go out with a new and different person a couple of times a week, make a lot of other friends and then your anxiety will be reduced.' LOL yeah, thatll reduce my anxiety!
07 Nov 2012, 6:10 pm
