Am I really supposed to care...

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About the human race when no one cares about me?

Why should I?

I can't even find poeple who can't accept I don't get symptoms I don't get....

Hypothetical example:

You don't hear voices but I keep insisting you do. The more you protest and try and to tell me you don't hear voices the more I ignore what you are saying and insist that you do and that you are just in denial. You keep trying and trying to tell me that you don't but i wont believe you. I tell everyone you hear voices and so people start to avoid you. when you do try to socialise people only pity you but won't have anything to do with you as a person. you are the pitfiful soul who hears voice and no one wants to be friends with you. Then I keep insisting that you should take medications to help with the voices even though you don't hear them...I keep on and on and on at you about and when you try to ask for understanding or help I don't listen to you. I just tell you it is the voices lying to you...but you dont hear voices......

How do you feel?

Because it may well be how I feel when people keep piitying me for symptoms I do not get such as self hatred or worthlessness.
Why am i supposed to care about a human race that does that to me and won't listen when I speak?

Then it blames me for my social issues.

IMO, you're not supposed to do anything.
And if people say you should, they are dumb.
Do the people who tell others to care about the human race care about it themselves in the first place? People that have told me to didn't seem to. They didn't seem to care about the milions of orphans starving in the world or the people dying during wars or the disabled. They didn't help them in any way, and not helping people, me included, in the first place was a clear sign that they didn't seem to care about the human race that much after all.
Personally, I don't care about most of the human race. Don't misunderstand me, I don't hate humanity; I just don't care about what could happen to most people. Would they care about me anyway? They wouldn't. If, excluding the people I love or care about, the rest of humanity disappeared, I wouldn't be emotionally affected by it that much. Would other people, except those who care about me, care if I died? They wouldn't, and I don't think that is bad since they don't know me.
A lot of people say they care about humanity, but very few actually do. Pretty difficult, caring about people one doesn't know is.

About the non-existing symptoms, I think that most people are just ignorant about disorders. I was told I was bipolar because I have mood swings and then in 8th grade it came out a story about how I cut myself during my "depressed periods". Which is not true. I have never been depressed, either.

Try not to be destructive, but no. It seems better if one can manage not to care when people are blatantly wrong. Happens too much. I'm sorry, Bumble.

I don't want to be destructive as I don't really like to see harm coming to living critters (be they human or otherwise). I find it emotionally traumatising to see someone or something suffering. But I am thinking about becoming a hermit and I no longer have sympathy for the society I wanted to help once up on a time.

It feels strange not to care when many years ago I wanted to make a difference in this world so i could make life better for people.

People don't care and I am tired of being knocked around by them so I figure I'd rather just make beautiful art and music these days and spend most of my time not interacting with society (I like to be out and about but I don't always want to interact with people or be social, I just like the coast, the countryside and fresh air).

I also hate the way it won't accept difference. I think it's awful that people are pushed into situations they don't get on with just because society has convinced itself they should be able to get on with those things or they are disordered (socialising being one example). Awful it is, terrible out there..so sad when there are so many people being told there is something wrong with them because they are not what society says they should be. Poor souls. How much pain are they being put though by being made to think they are defective when they are merely mortals with certain characteristics. And even if they are not good at something does that really mean they don't deserve to be cared about or loved?

Society is so awful. I hate it out there. Its horrid.

You're right, Bumble, it is awful when people are cruel.

I find a lot of humanity at Wrong Planet. Not always, but a lot and mostly, people don't ignore when someone is in pain, they respond.

Sometimes all it takes is one act of kindness to make things more tolerable. Someone did that for me this afternoon. I hope someone treats you well soon.

I know what you mean, bumble. In my opinion most people (or society) are very hypocritical. They always pretend to care, to be fair and good. But their actions always show their true attitude. Basically they don't care. There might be some individuals that do care but they are not "society". It's very sad but I think you would be a fool to care about them when they don't care about you.

Bumble?

You say nobody cares about you, but in all the times you've posted here on Wrong Planet, haven't people expressed concern for you and how you're feeling?

You may not have people in your immediate vicinity who seem to care about you, but that doesn't mean nobody cares. (And is it possible you're not picking up on it, or have trouble forming relationships so that such caring connections can be formed with people near you?)

Okay...

Here's a challenge for you, a little test.

Tell me- In this thread, have people come across as not caring, or have people come across as really being interested in you and how you're feeling?

Yeah, you're supposed to care.

Sometimes, it's hard to do the right thing when you see that other people are not. That doesn't let you off the hook from doing it, though.

But.. plenty of people care. The other day, when I explained to one of my friends that I was worried that I wouldn't be able to make the rent, he immediately said I could sleep on his couch if I needed it. And he's not got any ulterior motives; he knows I'm asexual and unavailable.

People help me all the time. Sure, some people are a-holes, but not all of them. People have given me things, given me advice, helped me do things that I couldn't do on my own, just because they cared. And I help other people all the time, too.

Don't focus on the people who don't care. Look at the world; see all the times people have helped you. Even little things, like the person who let you take that parking spot or held a door open for you when your arms were full of groceries. There are people who give their time and people who give money so that others can live better. Right now I'm participating in a cat-related forum and there's a whole sub-forum for people who manage feral cat colonies--care for cats that are so wild that nobody will ever be able to touch them, who need to be trapped just so they can get their neuter and rabies shots. They're never going to have those cats purring in their laps, and yet they care anyway, because those cats are living creatures and they are human beings who feel responsible for them.

When you find yourself not caring, do something for someone else. Donate a few dollars; donate a few hours; lend a hand, or just listen. Your feelings listen to your actions--when you help others, you start to care more, because your brain goes, "Hey. I just made this decision to help someone else. I must care more than it seems." And you start caring emotionally, too. It really works.