One, two, none at all?

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I was thinking about this yesterday, and I was wondering, how many people do you prefer to be with (other than yourself)?
I was thinking that I have an optimal number of people that I like to be around me, like sort of a Goldilocks "just right" complex, and I was wondering if anyone else did.

For example, I prefer to be either alone, or with one person who I can be myself with. Two's a crowd
I can't function with a larger group (and by large i mean two or more).

An aspie community will likely say that they'd like to be alone, but I was curious anyway.
Thanks for your answers

Do you know the children's counting rhyme-
"one, two, miss a few, 99 one hundred"
I would rather have from me to three or four, or a huge crowd so I can move from group to group or just chill.

Mostly I prefer to be alone.

A group of 7 or 8 is good too, you can have an intimate conversation without constantly having to actively participate.

I didn't vote.....sometimes I like being alone, sometimes 1-3, and sometimes I like to be around a lot of people?

two, perhaps 3, for me.
this is enough to allow me to fall silent without the conversation or activity stalling, yet not so large that subconversations will start (which happens often enough in groups of 5 total, so me+4)

Any more than two and it tends to not work well.

I'd have to say 2-5 for the most part. Being alone has it's purpose but I only prefer it at certain times. The same goes for being with 1 other person. It has its place but outside of that it also has its problems. Being with 2-5 people is usually preferred. It's hard for me to pick a specific number on the poll but I'm going to vote 3.

Just one or two people that I know well and feel comfortable around; any more than that and I feel overwhelmed. I usually get lost in big group conversations, so I prefer to talk to people one-on-one. I guess it really depends on the situation, though; being around lots of people can be okay as long as it's not a particularly overwhelming situation and I'm not expected to keep up with everything. However, there are probably a lot more situations in which I'd prefer to be around a smaller number of people rather than a large one.

0 = a bit lonely, but it's nice when I have had enough with people.

1 = I prefer this about equal amounts as just by myself. Pretty much whenever I want to socialize.

2 = Ugh. No. The two people I'm with will just start talking to each other and forget I'm there. No thanks.

3 = This is alright, but it just gets reduced down to 2 groups with 2 people each.

For >4, it's mostly a matter of either what happens with 3 (pair up), or there'll just be one big group discussion that I can't stand.

So yea, either 1 or by myself.

One, or two atthe most. I really dislike crowds & too many voices will derail a meaninful conversation...

Sincerely,
Matthew

Either one other person or no-one at all. I like to alternate between the two.

I prefer my own company most of the time although not always, when I do socialise I prefer and enjoy just one, can do two if its the right people, anymore and I get lost and eventually shut out of the conversation.

Last edited by rapidroy on 30 May 2013, 11:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Some of the time zero, and some of the time one.

Not more than one.

Ditto, so I couldn't push the vote button on this. My analogy is, each person I'm in contact with is a radio station. I certainly don't want to hear several songs or programs or advertisements simultaneously.

I can't understand.

Do you mean:

1- how many are, among people I know, the ones I like being with?

or

2- how many are the people I can be with in a group?

As for 1, I guess that there are 4 or 5 persons I like being with.

As for 2, I think that I'd prefer a group of 2 (including myself) but if I like the persons (like my friends) I can even accept a group of 5 (including myself).

Although I do like to be alone sometimes, I am capable of being around at least three people if given the chance.