Aspergers and being too honest

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Anyone else say way too much or things they shouldn't say, even though they're true? I finally realized sometime back to just not talk about myself, even when asked, because I'd end up fessing up to something I shouldn't. I'm too freaking honest. I am able to be very manipulative and lie well, I just don't like too, I feel like a bad person. I know Aspies are notorious for being too honest. Why is that?

I used to do that, back when I was a cute eight year old. Then my dad said I talked the truth too much, because my mom would ask him if he had been drinking, and I would automatically say yes, and even remember which brand he drank. Oh, I love my life now.

I lost many friends in my life for being too honest, it seems like not many people likes to know the truth about some themes...
My mom always said to me if what im going to say isnt a nice thing maybe being quiet is the best...

Because we take things too literal. We are told we must be honest and not lie so we take it literal.

One of my aspies friends told me babies are stupid and I took offense to that because he basically insulted my baby. I haven't spoken to him since.

I'm honest to a fault sometimes. If someone asks me my opinion or for advice; I will be upfront & honest with em even thou they may not want to hear it because I believe honesty is most helpful I HATE it when others lie to me trying to cheer me up. I don't believe in things like sucking up either. I wish more people were honest but others don't see it that way. I think the phrases brutal honesty & bitter truth apply to me

Very honest


God offers to every mind its choice between truth and repose. Take which you please - you can never have both. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you mad. ~Aldous Huxley


Truth, like milk, arrives in the dark
But even so, wise dogs don't bark.
Only mongrels make it hard
For the milkman to come up the yard.
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It is error alone which needs the support of government. Truth can stand by itself. ~Thomas Jefferson, Notes on Virginia


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The greatest enemy of any one of our truths may be the rest of our truths. ~William James


Men ardently pursue truth, assuming it will be angels' bread when found. ~W. MacNeile Dixon


There is no god higher than truth. ~Mahatma Gandhi


Truth has very few friends and those few are suicides. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin


The trouble about man is twofold. He cannot learn truths which are too complicated; he forgets truths which are too simple. ~Rebecca West


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Truth is rarely writ in ink; it lives in nature. ~Martin H. Fischer


When I tell any truth, it is not for the sake of convincing those who do not know it, but for the sake of defending those that do. ~William Blake


Truth only reveals itself when one gives up all preconceived ideas. ~Shoseki


Without faith there is no truth, for that is all the truth is or ever was. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com


There is no Truth. There is only the truth within each moment. ~Ramana Maharshi, attributed


Truth is after all a moving target
Hairs to split,
And pieces that don't fit
How can anybody be enlightened?
Truth is after all so poorly lit.
~Neil Peart, Turn the Page
(Thank you, Ryan)


Theories are private property, but truth is common stock. ~Charles Caleb Colton


It is a terrible thing for a man to find out suddenly that all his life he has been speaking nothing but the truth. ~Oscar Wilde


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Truth breeds hatred. ~Bias of Priene, Maxims


If you cannot find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it? ~Dogen


People always think something's all true. ~J.D. Salinger, Catcher in the Rye


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Truth, like gold, is to be obtained not by its growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold. ~Leo Tolstoy


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Like all dreamers, I mistook disenchantment for truth. ~Jean-Paul Sartre


Truth is a great flirt. ~Franz Liszt


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We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter. ~Denis Diderot


All great truths begin as blasphemies. ~George Bernard Shaw, Annajanska, 1919


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Run parallel to reality, they symbolize it, they squint at it,
They never touch it: consider what an explosion
Would rock the bones of men into little white fragments and unsky the world
If any mind for a moment touch truth.
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The greatest truths are the simplest: so likewise are the greatest men. ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827


I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth - and truth rewarded me. ~Simone de Beauvoir


Man has always sacrificed truth to his vanity, comfort and advantage. He lives... by make-believe. ~W. Somerset Maugham, The Summing Up, 1938


When one has one's hand full of truth it is not always wise to open it. ~French Proverb


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We do not err because truth is difficult to see. It is visible at a glance. We err because this is more comfortable. ~Alexander Solzhenitsyn


The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable. ~Attributed to James A. Garfield


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There is no truth. There is only perception. ~Gustave Flaubert


If a thousand old beliefs were ruined in our march to truth we must still march on. ~Stopford Brooke

I don't know exactly why we do it, but I suspect it relates to politeness, and our difficulty in understanding politeness.

I sometimes ask people if they believe a person can be both polite and honest. Polite people will say yes, but honest people will give at best a highly qualified yes and often just say no.

I'm never too honest. I can lie. I don't lie where I don't need to. I only lie when it's necessary, like the time when the job-centre picked me a job I really didn't want to do. It's silly just sitting there going all around the houses when I could just make up a little white lie to get me out of it without any problems. The main thing is, it worked.

I get told often by others that I say too many details and can't keep it short. So I tried to keep it short and it ends up being too short and taken in a rude manner.

Then I'm frustrated all over again and shrugging.