Are you starved for appreciation/praise?

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I know I am...

Well, I like appreciation. It is not necessary, but adds a new drive to things.

I could work myself sore, and most people wouldn't notice... wait, I did that already. So yeah, some appreciation would be a huge plus in my offline world.

Yes--now that you mention it... totally starved!

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Sometimes I wonder if when I do nice things for people I do it to be nice or because I just want to be appreciatied.

Yes, since being diagnosed have had no support not even from my husband. In fact friends here in NZ have backed off, even heard them mention that aspergers is a mental disorder.

So it would feel like me against the world, if not for the wonderful Aspie community, and sites like this and my own web site.

I voted somewhat, because I have experienced appreciation and praise - but not enough. A lot of what I do gets ignored or disrespected - not because of what I'm doing but how I'm going about it and what I need to achieve it. Funny how people criticise my methods and yet when challenged to come up with a better way they go all silent on me!

Somewhat, for the fact that it greatly matters to me that the appreciation come from someone whose opinions I "Respect" in the first place.
I always try to "Consider the Source." For instance, when the DRUNK cook is in the kitchen bad-mouthing me on my day off cause I quit smoking and he could't, and I'm divorcing his "friend" I really don't let it bother me too much. Because I "consider the source" and I don't really care what some 50 year old, bitter, chronic drunk guy thinks of me. In fact I find it pathetic that he does it only when I'm not present. It's sad how hes let himself go. What a waste.
However, if my boss says something to me, it almost makes me cry, as I have the utmost respect for him, both as a human being, and a businessman.
However, a compliment from him makes me feel great every time I think about it. He never tells you directly what he thinks of you either. For example the other night the ex-floor manager who had worked for him for years came in, and he asked me if I'd ever met her, drug me out to meet her and the first thing she said to me was"So, your Reika, Georgio has told me so much about you and how much he thinks of you and trusts you." I looked over at him and he looked back at me and I said "Really?, you think that of me?" I felt SO good in that moment and do right now, even as I think of it. She continued on to say that that really was saying something cause my boss doesn't instill his trust in too many people, that it was rare to hear him say that.
Getting "misty" just recalling it.

I used to be really disappointed when I did something I thought was really cool and hardly anyone noticed. I later figured out that most of it wasn't that cool after all, and the stuff that was cool was also not understood very well at first. I got the praise much later. I've learned the hard way to just do stuff as usual and don't expect anyone to notice.

The embarrassing part is I didn't learn that until I was almost 40. So I guess I'm not the brightest nickel at the mint.

Whenever I do something I am really proud of it is always too obscure or confusing for anyone I know to appreciate, even if I spend a long time trying to explain.. since that usually just confuses people more.

It's always nice to be recognized for what I do. Generally though I feel like I'm being ignored.

I do feel that a few of my accomplishments go unnoticed.

Tim

As long as I think I am doing a good job I am happy and I am not really fussed what other people think. It is nice to be acknowledged - but not important - I am much harder to please than other people!